For the past 12 years my clients have included, CEOs, Business Owners, Judges, Bankers, Lawyers and their husbands and wives. They have been referred to my very unique service looking to me for the best advice for their marriage.
Most wanted to know if saving their marriage was actually possible, or even the right thing to do based on so much unhappiness.
These clients all arrived with an array of emotions and unique marriage problems. Some were lost, frustrated and angry and some were detached, emotionally numb with bouts of sadness.
Every couple was different with a unique journey and story to tell me. Some shared they were worried they were incompatible, some complained their was little to no communication. Some had a loss of attraction and sexual desire for their partner. Some clients had just lost trust that the marriage would be happy in the future, and some had discovered an affair so trust died instantly.
Many were simply at war going round in circles.
The result was many lay awake at night wondering how they got here longing for the day of freedom and happiness, some were worried about their future and the impact a split would have on the children. Some were so detached they were secretly planning their escape. Many clients didn’t know how to solve their problems but had tried and now divorce seems like the only route to relieve the stress.
Some clients had no idea their problems were bad enough to warrant a divorce which simply served to prove how out of touch they were with each other.
All my clients longed for happiness, but were struggling to know if that was actually possible together and many believed there was no hope.
One thing all these people agreed on was the problems in their marriage had changed them. They had lost a sense of who they are as they both tried to cope and survive their problems.
This resulted in them spending more time with other people or activities that actually met their needs and made them happy outside of the relationship.
My clients all felt stuck, they are all passionate about their children and having a successful relationship in their life.
When my clients arrive for a consultation they have usually spent months to years of their life frustrated trying to fix their own problems. Many have tried many different therapies, such as marriage counselling all without success.