How to create goals

You want to be successful, but at what?

Creating goals is the hardest part of designing a successful life

What if you want to be successful but you’re not sure what at. There are coaches everywhere telling you that you can achieve anything you want. There are even books and films telling you to think yourself wealthy.

If you have the drive and the passion then you can achieve your dreams.

But what happens when you don’t know what your passion is. What happens if you don’t know what goal to go for?

If you have seen the Dragon’s Den you will see people taking charge of their lives and selling their houses to fund their dream to run a successful business.

These people have taken massive action, they have followed their dream, they have imagined themselves living the life they want, they have done everything coaches tell them to do only to be told to STOP…! by the dragons because in their opinion they are wasting their time and money.

The starting point which is where you are today and the millions of opportunities open to you need to be channelled into a direction you are happy to take that has the best chance in succeeding.

The goal is to discover your goal, your direction.

The principles of NLP is one of the few proven ways to gather information about a direction and an individual that proves to that individual if that direction is the right one to explore. Great questions can uncover your possibilities and the resources you require to achieve those results you desire.

Your goals have to be clarified and designed so you are not blindly walking down a lane to no where and you are on a journey where it is possible to reach your destination one step at a time.

Do you suffer from a lack of confidence?

Lost, alone and not sure which way to turn?

Anyone that believes or displays a lack of confidence can block themselves from achieving many great goals in their life.

Most confidence issues can be cured very quickly through changing beliefs about yourself and others.

You can free yourself…

What is a lack of confidence.

What’s interesting about confidence is the fact that someone may suffer from confidence issues in certain areas of their life, yet display total confidence in others.

No one deserves to wear the badge “I am not confident”

You could be a professional, fully confident in your career, yet lack confidence with dating. Or you could be lacking confidence in public speaking or maybe you just have this persona that screams I’m not confident in certain situations.

If you feel that this is you then let’s look at what might be happening.

Lack of confidence is created by a fear that something bad might happen.

What could someone be afraid of in their problem situations.

  • Fear of humiliation
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of not being good enough
  • Fear of success – Yes this happens a lot!

Maybe you could fill in your own fear ___________, or maybe you don’t know what is driving your lack of confidence.

Either way you now have a great question:

  • What fear is causing my lack of confidence and how do I remove it and free myself  from my life block?

If you wish to have this removed please book some time with NLP Life Coach Stephen Hedger

How to get everything you want

Do you need more of something?

Life changes whether we want it to or not.

As time passes it is very easy to accept those little changes without realising, only to discover over time the little changes have made a massive shift in your life direction over time.

Now you are not where you set out to be… So do you now let life make the decisions or do you take charge and get yourself back on track.

To achieve everything you want, you need a goal and a clear picture of where you are in relationship to that goal.

Where has life taken you?

As you sit there reading this have a look around you. Whatever decisions you have taken through out your life has brought you to this room right now.

Picture yourself in this room, look at the walls, the floors and the furniture.

Now notice what you notice about how you feel about the decisions you have taken to bring you to this very room right now.

As you ponder your feelings now ask yourself this…

…am I where I want to be? Is this the life I wanted? Am happy or can I do more.

Very often you will discover that there are many areas of your life that are not the way you want them to be. Career, relationships, money, debt, fun. Life can get so busy and it’s so easy to lose sight of what you really want.

If you have discovered that just maybe there are changes you would like to make, then you have two choices.

  • Option 1 – Do nothing and hope you get what you want.
  • Option 2 -  Get passionate about your life and start to discover what has been stopping you achieving.

Happiness is your right, and as long as what you want is physically possible then there is no reason why you should not have it.

In the words of Nike “…Just do it!”

The Power of Persuasion

Imagine having the power to be able to get people to do things you want them to do and make it seem like it was their idea?

I can see the devil in you at work already.

The art of persuasion is all around us, companies wanting us to buy things, partners wanting us to do things for them, sales people trying to convince you that what they have to sell just happens to be something that you need right now!

Rapport is the key

The quickest way to help someone see things your way is to get into rapport with them and discover how you can see the world from their perspective.

What you are after is for them to trust you, when they trust you they are far more likely to respect your views and listen to your ideas.

For example a sales man that tries to sell you a car because it’s cheaper than the big flash dealership down the road. Has made an assumption that price is what will make you buy. What you really want to know is, you will be looked after through the servicing of the car and if things go wrong.

Or how about the handsome guy who spends all night telling his date how great he is, and how cool his expensive his car is. Clearly missing the point that what she wants is, to feel great about herself when she’s with him. All he mastered was how to make himself feel good, and totally left her out.

The key to persuasion is presenting what you have to offer in a way that respects the needs of the people you’re communicating to. When they know you understand their needs and they feel good about themselves in your company then they are more likely to make the decision you wanted.

Rapport is one the critical keys to the art of persuasion.

Learning the art of rapport is beautiful art form of communication and one of the areas of NLP I personally enjoy the most.

  • If your interested to learn how to get into rapport for business or personal
    reasons please make contact with NLP Coach Stephen Hedger today