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Category: Body Language
Category: Communication Problems
Category: Coping with affairs
- Affairs & Why They Happen
- Coping After An Affair
Category: Couples coaching
Category: Dating
- Body Language: Who is attracted to you?
Category: Depression
- Depression: Relationship Problems
Category: How Our Minds Work
- How Our Minds Work – Perception
- How Our Minds Work – Your Focus
Category: How to Find him & keep Him
- How To Get The Man You Want & Keep Him
Category: Life Coaching
- Honesty is the best policy!? – Really?
Category: Long Distance Relationship
- Long Distance Relationship Advice
Category: Marriage Therapy
- Does Marriage Therapy Work?
Category: Passionless Relationships
- Passionless Relationship
Category: Regain Trust
- How To Regain & Build Trust In A Relationship
Category: Relationship Advice

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Category: Your Questions Answered (continued)

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Stephen Hedger — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 10:01:16 +0000

Life Coach in Aylesbury Buckinghamshire

Stephen Hedger — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 17:52:51 +0000

Stephen Hedger is offering life coaching services in Aylesbury Buckinghamshire.

Stephen helps his clients with a comprehensive range of challenges.

Some clients have relationship problems, or want to meet someone special and need help with dating. Some have confidence or self-esteem issues and are unhappy, but donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know why.

Some want to start businesses or have a hit a cross roads and are afraid to choose a direction.

Life coaching is great for anyone who is stuck and has run out of ways to help themselves. Life coaches help clients understand how the mind and body work together to get the best results.

Life coaches know how to get clients motivated to achieve their goals by really understanding how their goal aligns with their life values.

Life coaches help their clients look at their lives and challenges from new and fresh perspectives.

Clients experience a fresher and lighter feeling whilst gaining, confidence in future decisions and a clear route to gaining the life they really want.

Find out more about life coaching with Stephen Hedger and get answers todayÃ¢â‚¬Â¦

How to get rich look beautiful & have passionate relationships.

Stephen Hedger — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 09:02:01 +0000

If you are lazy and want to world to bring riches to your door then this post is not for you. However if you want to know how to create a life rich with all that you desire then read on.

One of the keys to creating a successful life is to spend as much time as possible working on yourself so that you can become more valuable to those who will give you money, to those who love you and to yourself for a long healthy and happy life.

Increasing your value in any area of your life is critical to your success.

The only way to increase your value in all these areas is to become persistent in taking the actions that will give you everything you want.

The reason most people are not successful is the jump from where they are today, to where they want to be is too big, and so they try and try, and after failing again and again, they give up.

Those that donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t give up and keep changing what they are doing until they run out of ways to fail are in the top 1% of the worldÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s most successful people in their field.

Persistence is the key, but learn from your mistakes. Discover who has what you want and discover what they did, how they did it. Learn from a mentor who knows how to break down what they did, or who has life experience in this field and can share their wisdom.

There is no need to reinvent the wheel.

If you want an amazing lasting relationship discover what you both need for this to happen.
If you want to accumulate cash then learn how to increase your value in the market.
If you want to live a healthy long life then discover the fuels and the effects of the fuels you are feeding your body.

Your value in any area of your life is based on understanding your direction and then getting the information that is most likely to get you what you really want.

In short if you want to add value to your life feed yourself knowledge fast!

Coaching v Therapy

Stephen Hedger — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 07:57:42 +0000

One question that keep coming up is what is the difference between coaching, therapy and counselling?

One of the reasons I personally enjoy coaching so much and decided to embark on my own journey of self discovery was after seeing my own coach many years ago. It was the profoundly positive affect I felt that was so forward thinking and really helped me feel good about myself again.

I had years before experienced counselling and therapist and they helped me to focus on all that was wrong in my life and so I left each session feeling worse, and with little guidance to feel better.

Therapists and counsellors usually look back over someoneÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s life to discover why they are experiencing problems today.

There are two key reasons why I donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t personally like this approach, one is because the client gets to relive all their painful memories. When they do this they focus on pain and so they start to see and experience more and more problems. This puts clients into learnt unresourceful states designed to get the reverse of what they want.

The second reason I dislike this approach is because those that do come to me after years in therapy find that changing is a tough road for them, this is because they are conditioned to link everything that happens back past experiences. What this does is to give the client even more reasons/excuses why they cannot achieve their goals.

Coaching is forward thinking and is focused on obtaining specific goals. If blocks from the past do occur then deep change work will be used to change the perception of a memory or a belief to free the individual to keep moving forward without all the focus on painful experiences.

How to make changes in your life?

Stephen Hedger — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 10:18:34 +0000

When someone wants to make a change there are certain things that person has to have for that change to happen.

It is because of a lack of the following qualities many people fail to achieve their dreams. This is where the value of a life coach or mentor becomes critical. Knowing what a human needs before they can become successful is critical to anyone success.

The desire to changeÃ¢â‚¬Â¦

To start with the person has to want to change. The process of change is not always a smooth one because what you believe today will have to be challenged. This is because whatever you believe and have persistently practised so far has resulted in where you are today.

Belief in yourself

If you want to change you have to believe that the change is possible and that you are worthy of receiving the great things those changes will get you. Failure to have these beliefs will ensure that your goals are never met.

Motivation and action

Understand the motivation behind your goals is what will keep you going. You could be motivated by pain of a situation or you couple just want more. Understanding the motivation will help you stay focused on your goals. Without the necessary motivation you will never take the actions needed to get what you really want.

Persistence and self discipline

The biggest and most important quality is a persistence to even when things get tough to follow through with your plan. When people donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t see instant results they tend to give up. People who are successful did not become this way over night.

Take stock of your life now!

What do you have that you don’t want? What did you consistantly do to achieve this. The reason I ask this is to prove that persistance works it just needs channeling in a positive way.

Would love to hear your stories of your life changes and how you became successful.

Please comment below

How to never be offended ever again

Stephen Hedger — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 07:59:23 +0000

To be offended by what others say something within you has to happen first.

1. You have to respect the person and their opinion

2. You have to put importance on the judgement of others even though you have no idea by what standard you are being judged or how they are qualified to assess you.

3. You will have to accept their opinion and agree that on some level they are right even if consciously you think they are not.

4. You will then reject your own agreement with what they say and this will make you angry cross or upset.

5. You will then blame them for how upset they made you feel.

6. The truth is itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s you that makes you upset.

By giving away your personal power to others you are at their mercy and they know it. Why allow others to be your judge.

Take control of your emotions today and watch your confidence and self-esteem grow.

How to create goals

Stephen Hedger — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 15:00:01 +0000

You want to be successful, but at what?

Creating goals is the hardest part of designing a successful life

What if you want to be successful but youÃ¢â‚¬â„¢re not sure what at. There are coaches everywhere telling you that you can achieve anything you want. There are even books and films telling you to think yourself wealthy.

If you have the drive and the passion then you can achieve your dreams.

But what happens when you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know what your passion is. What happens if you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know what goal to go for?

If you have seen the DragonÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s Den you will see people taking charge of their lives and selling their houses to fund their dream to run a successful business.

These people have taken massive action, they have followed their dream, they have imagined themselves living the life they want, they have done everything coaches tell them to do only to be told to STOP…! by the dragons because in their opinion they are wasting their time and money.

The starting point which is where you are today and the millions of opportunities open to you need to be channelled into a direction you are happy to take that has the best chance in succeeding.

The goal is to discover your goal, your direction.

The principles of NLP is one of the few proven ways to gather information about a direction and an individual that proves to that individual if that direction is the right one to explore. Great questions can uncover your possibilities and the resources you require to achieve those results you desire.

Your goals have to be clarified and designed so you are not blindly walking down a lane to no where and you are on a journey where it is possible to reach your destination one step at a time.

Do you suffer from a lack of confidence?

Stephen Hedger — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 14:52:14 +0000

Lost, alone and not sure which way to turn?

Anyone that believes or displays a lack of confidence can block themselves from achieving many great goals in their life.

Most confidence issues can be cured very quickly through changing beliefs about yourself and others.

You can free yourself…

What is a lack of confidence.

WhatÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s interesting about confidence is the fact that someone may suffer from confidence issues in certain areas of their life, yet display total confidence in others.

No one deserves to wear the badge Ã¢â‚¬Å“I am not confidentÃ¢â‚¬Â

You could be a professional, fully confident in your career, yet lack confidence with dating. Or you could be lacking confidence in public speaking or maybe you just have this persona that screams IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m not confident in certain situations.

If you feel that this is you then letÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s look at what might be happening.

Lack of confidence is created by a fear that something bad might happen.

What could someone be afraid of in their problem situations.

Fear of humiliation
Fear of being judged
Fear of not being good enough
Fear of success – Yes this happens a lot!

Maybe you could fill in your own fear ___________, or maybe you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t know what is driving your lack of confidence.

Either way you now have a great question:

What fear is causing my lack of confidence and how do I remove it and free myselfÃ‚Â from my life block?

If you wish to have this removed please book some time with NLP Life Coach Stephen Hedger

How to get everything you want

Stephen Hedger — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 11:42:02 +0000

Do you need more of something?

Life changes whether we want it to or not.

As time passes it is very easy to accept those little changes without realising, only to discover over time the little changes have made a massive shift in your life direction over time.

Now you are not where you set out to be… So do you now let life make the decisions or do you take charge and get yourself back on track.

To achieve everything you want, you need a goal and a clear picture of where you are in relationship to that goal.

Where has life taken you?

As you sit there reading this have a look around you. Whatever decisions you have taken through out your life has brought you to this room right now.

Picture yourself in this room, look at the walls, the floors and the furniture.

Now notice what you notice about how you feel about the decisions you have taken to bring you to this very room right now.

As you ponder your feelings now ask yourself thisÃ¢â‚¬Â¦

Ã¢â‚¬Â¦am I where I want to be? Is this the life I wanted? Am happy or can I do more.

Very often you will discover that there are many areas of your life that are not the way you want them to be. Career, relationships, money, debt, fun. Life can get so busy and itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s so easy to lose sight of what you really want.

If you have discovered that just maybe there are changes you would like to make, then you have two choices.

Option 1 – Do nothing and hope you get what you want.
Option 2 -Ã‚Â Get passionate about your life and start to discover what has been stopping you achieving.

Happiness is your right, and as long as what you want is physically possible then there is no reason why you should not have it.

In the words of Nike “…Just do it!”