How to never be offended ever again

25/06/2010 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

To be offended by what others say something within you has to happen first.

1. You have to respect the person and their opinion

2. You have to put importance on the judgement of others even though you have no idea by what standard you are being judged or how they are qualified to assess you.

3. You will have to accept their opinion and agree that on some level they are right even if consciously you think they are not.

4. You will then reject your own agreement with what they say and this will make you angry cross or upset.

5. You will then blame them for how upset they made you feel.

6. The truth is it’s you that makes you upset.

By giving away your personal power to others you are at their mercy and they know it. Why allow others to be your judge.

Take control of your emotions today and watch your confidence and self-esteem grow.

Filed Under: Blog, Life Coaching, Self Discovery Tagged With: emotions, life coaching, personal power

How to create goals

20/06/2010 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

You want to be successful, but at what?

Creating goals is the hardest part of designing a successful life

What if you want to be successful but you’re not sure what at. There are coaches everywhere telling you that you can achieve anything you want. There are even books and films telling you to think yourself wealthy.

If you have the drive and the passion then you can achieve your dreams.

But what happens when you don’t know what your passion is. What happens if you don’t know what goal to go for?

If you have seen the Dragon’s Den you will see people taking charge of their lives and selling their houses to fund their dream to run a successful business.

These people have taken massive action, they have followed their dream, they have imagined themselves living the life they want, they have done everything coaches tell them to do only to be told to STOP…! by the dragons because in their opinion they are wasting their time and money.

The starting point which is where you are today and the millions of opportunities open to you need to be channelled into a direction you are happy to take that has the best chance in succeeding.

The goal is to discover your goal, your direction.

The principles of NLP is one of the few proven ways to gather information about a direction and an individual that proves to that individual if that direction is the right one to explore. Great questions can uncover your possibilities and the resources you require to achieve those results you desire.

Your goals have to be clarified and designed so you are not blindly walking down a lane to no where and you are on a journey where it is possible to reach your destination one step at a time.

Filed Under: Blog, Life Coaching Tagged With: creating goals, personal success

Do you suffer from a lack of confidence?

20/06/2010 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Lost, alone and not sure which way to turn?

Anyone that believes or displays a lack of confidence can block themselves from achieving many great goals in their life.

Most confidence issues can be cured very quickly through changing beliefs about yourself and others.

You can free yourself…

What is a lack of confidence.

What’s interesting about confidence is the fact that someone may suffer from confidence issues in certain areas of their life, yet display total confidence in others.

No one deserves to wear the badge “I am not confident”

You could be a professional, fully confident in your career, yet lack confidence with dating. Or you could be lacking confidence in public speaking or maybe you just have this persona that screams I’m not confident in certain situations.

If you feel that this is you then let’s look at what might be happening.

Lack of confidence is created by a fear that something bad might happen.

What could someone be afraid of in their problem situations.

  • Fear of humiliation
  • Fear of being judged
  • Fear of not being good enough
  • Fear of success – Yes this happens a lot!

Maybe you could fill in your own fear ___________, or maybe you don’t know what is driving your lack of confidence.

Either way you now have a great question:

  • What fear is causing my lack of confidence and how do I remove it and free myself  from my life block?

If you wish to have this removed please book some time with NLP Life Coach Stephen Hedger

Filed Under: Blog, Life Coaching Tagged With: confidence, fears, personal development, personal success, success

How to get everything you want

20/06/2010 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Do you need more of something?

Life changes whether we want it to or not.

As time passes it is very easy to accept those little changes without realising, only to discover over time the little changes have made a massive shift in your life direction over time.

Now you are not where you set out to be… So do you now let life make the decisions or do you take charge and get yourself back on track.

To achieve everything you want, you need a goal and a clear picture of where you are in relationship to that goal.

Where has life taken you?

As you sit there reading this have a look around you. Whatever decisions you have taken through out your life has brought you to this room right now.

Picture yourself in this room, look at the walls, the floors and the furniture.

Now notice what you notice about how you feel about the decisions you have taken to bring you to this very room right now.

As you ponder your feelings now ask yourself this…

…am I where I want to be? Is this the life I wanted? Am happy or can I do more.

Very often you will discover that there are many areas of your life that are not the way you want them to be. Career, relationships, money, debt, fun. Life can get so busy and it’s so easy to lose sight of what you really want.

If you have discovered that just maybe there are changes you would like to make, then you have two choices.

  • Option 1 – Do nothing and hope you get what you want.
  • Option 2 -  Get passionate about your life and start to discover what has been stopping you achieving.

Happiness is your right, and as long as what you want is physically possible then there is no reason why you should not have it.

In the words of Nike “…Just do it!”

Filed Under: Blog, Life Coaching Tagged With: business success, personal development, personal success
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