How To: Give A Great Massage


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This isn’t going to be a Playboy instructional video on how to handle women too
beautiful to exist in real life and how to make them respond in ways no one has ever heard
of. The idea here is to turn you into a massage master Jedi, a relaxation guru if you
will. That’s really what a good rubdown is — a way to relieve stress and
channel positive energy through to the other person. Not only is it href=”http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-get-physical-with-a-woman.html”>one
of the best ways to signal to your partner that you’re ready to move to the next level
physically, but it’s also a fantastic way to let her know how much you care. You’re probably familiar with specific href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/234_love_tip.html”>types of massages.
Shiatsu is an Eastern art that combines acupuncture with acupressure to allow the
regulation of the energy flow. Rolfing is another medically oriented technique aimed at
the straightening of the body, strongly resembling chiropractic. The best
known, however, is the Swedish href=”http://www.askmen.com/money/body_and_mind_100/102_better_living.html”>massage,
which is pretty much what will be covered here. It’s a full body massage with relaxation
as its goal. Other styles such as sports massage, reflexology, myotherapy, and myofascial
release are also of a therapeutic nature.

Before you get started with a massage

The environment in which you intend to proceed should be carefully mulled over. It should
be relaxing in most fundamental way. There shouldn’t be any children or pets around to
interrupt. The room must be at a comfortable temperature and your woman shouldn’t be
subjected to any drafts. Take the time to dim the lights and make sure the drapes are
pulled shut so that there are no distractions. It’s not enough just to light a scented
candle; make sure your environment is clean and uncluttered. Plan on summoning
the music connoisseur within you and make a playlist of relaxing music. For relaxation’s
sake, we prefer instrumental compositions. Think mellow jazz. href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/player_200/220_love_games.html”>Your woman should be
comfortable with you; if she doesn’t feel completely at ease, then she won’t be able
to fully let go. She should entirely disrobe once you assure her that her more intimate
parts will be covered. It is possible to work around bra straps and panty lines but it
should be avoided if possible.

Come to the massage equipped

She should lie down on a hard surface so that all her muscles are adequately supported: a
firm mattress or a futon are ideal. Also, allow enough space for you to be able to
circulate around her and work contentedly. Have towels on hand. Not
only will you need some to cover her where the sun isn’t supposed to shine, but it is also
important to cover the areas that you have already massaged so that the body heat you will
have generated won’t escape and leave her chilly. A folded towel or a small pillow should
be provided for her head. Read on for more on how to give an amazing
massage…

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Long-Distance Relationships


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Long-Distance RelationshipsThis
week, Doc Love helps a reader navigate the world of
href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_300/391_relationship_expert.html”>long-distance
relationships with advice from >“The System.”

reader’s question

Hey Doc,I’d been seeing Brenda, a single mum with two kids, for a short
while. We live about 45 minutes away from each other and had a handful of dates. She
admitted to me that she’s been seeing someone who lives in her town and that
she’s felt herself growing closer to him.

distance and dating

Now, how much of an issue is distance when it comes to dating? I don’t think 45
minutes away is that far. Alternatively, I’m hesitant to date anyone outside of my
city, but in the event I meet someone from out of town again, I’d like to know how I
might handle it better. There aren’t many options here in my town.I also
want to add that I always seem to get stuck at three or four dates with a woman, and this
happens at about the one-month period. The only one that didn’t end in that period
of time was a short-term “fake” relationship where the woman went back to her
ex, later married him and divorced him. This has become quite frustrating for me because
it seems like I can’t even get into a relationship with a woman. Everyone tells me all the stupid cliches: “Don’t try so hard.” (I
don’t.) “Girls don’t like the href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/141_relationship_expert.html”>nice
guys.” (I’m not your typical nice guy.) “It will happen when you
least expect it.” (I’m not expecting anything.)Doc, I’m 30
and would love for my luck to change. I sometimes think I would benefit from having
someone right alongside me to help me, but I have no clue how to begin with that.Thank you for your time.Marcellus – who’s hit a
wall

doc love’s response

Hi Marcellus,Whoa. Wait a minute here. You’re telling me that
you’re dating a woman who is telling you that she’s seeing someone else and
that her Interest Level in this other guy is going up? Doesn’t that tell you that
you’re out of this long-distance relationship? Like my Uncle Jethro Love says,
“Boy, she’s usin’ a bullhorn right in your face!” And
doesn’t that tell you that this whole thing is all a waste of time? Doesn’t
this tell you that you’re coming in second in the horse race? Like my cousin Fast
Eddie Love says, “Nobody remembers who comes in second at the track. Only the
winners pay off.”

do long-distance relationships work?

To answer your question about long distance, the truth is that it’s a big deal. To
you Psych majors: If you live 5 or 10 minutes away from a girl, it’s easy to date
her and use Challenge. But when she lives 45 minutes to an hour away, you naturally will
have to see her less and your planning has to be much stricter. Basically, everything is
much harder in a long-distance relationship. How do you handle this situation better? You
can’t. The girl has to live closer to you. The rule is that the shorter the
distance between the two of you, the better off you are. As far as the local options are
concerned, you haven’t met every girl in your town, have you, Marcellus?The reason you keep getting stuck at the one-month period with girls is because
you’re doing things wrong. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says,
“What happens is that the girl likes you on the first date, you’re pretty good
on the second date, on the third date things start going downhill, and by the fourth date,
you’re out.” This happens to lots of guys. And it happens because they say and
do all the wrong things because they don’t have my programme, href=”http://www.askmen.com/products/doclove/” >“The System.” And this is apparently what’s
happening in your case, my friend. More advice on dealing with a long-distance
relationship next…

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Swedish Girls


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Is the hype about Swedish girls really true? Are they really the href=”http://www.askmen.com/top_10/entertainment/top-10-hottest-historical-women.html”>hottest
women on earth? Well, that’s the type of question that is best argued about into the
early morning accompanied by pint after pint of beer, so we’ll leave that up to you. All
we can do is provide evidence for the “yes” side of the argument. So let’s say
for the sake of argument that Swedish girls are the world’s hottest. The next logical
question is, how do I meet one? What do I say to her? How to I get her to hang out with me
all the time, and ultimately share my bed? Well gentlemen, reporting directly from Sweden,
here are some tips for href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/138_dating_advice.html”>dating
Swedish girls.We decided to ask Sapphire, author of the blog

href=”http://lostinstockholm.com/2009/08/21/want-to-meet-a-blond-girl-dating-swedish-women-aint-so-easy/”>Lost
in Stockholm, for information about what Swedish girls don’t like in a guy.
“Swedish girls are everything what you href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa_100/105_love_secrets.html”>fantasize
about,” writes Sapphire. “They are tall, beautiful, blonde (although often artificially
blond dyed hair), busty, athletic, and strong. These Viking women are the enigma wrapped
in a conundrum because the men still haven’t figured them out.”

What Swedish girls don’t want

According to Sapphire, Swedish girls get fed up with Swedish guys for the following
reasons.-They tend to be shy-They’re stingy, and don’t invite girls out
much-They’re too dependent on alcohol for href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/dating_advice_250/296_am-rule-refresher-conversation.html”>conversation,
and they often drink to get drunk, with no understanding of moderation-No alcohol
equals no conversation-They’re too emotionally distant and far away So
what’s a guy to do? Read on for tips on how to score a Swedish girl.  

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Sexual Experimentation


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Will Sex Toys Lead Her Astray?

Dear Doctor Chaves, My girlfriend has been getting more and more into sex. When I first met her, she
was kind of shy, not too sexual. I didn’t have a problem with it. The longer
we’ve been together, the more she  href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/player_100/131_love_games.html”>wants to be more
experimental. Now she wants to get href=”http://www.askmen.com/video/dating/994-sex-toys-for-women-video.html”>sex toys
and use them. She’s changing so fast, and I don’t know if I like it. Will her
using sex toys make her think I’m not as good of a lover or lead her to cheating
or ending things? -Carlos I’ve
never come across any information or research that suggests women have left men because
of their sex toys. Usually women leave men for reasons other than not being
battery-operated. It sounds to me like your girlfriend is expanding her sexual horizons
and that is threatening to you. She’s becoming more comfortable with herself, her
body and sexual experimentation. For most guys, including this one, that’s a good
thing. You’re going to need to challenge your discomfort and unease with her
newfound href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/dzimmer_700/722_sexual-confidence-and-ejaculation.html”>sexual
confidence and jump on the bandwagon of supportive sexual comfort. I
detect a certain amount of inferiority that the sex toy issue is triggering for you, but
becoming more confident in yourself, your sexual expression and your partners’ sexual
expression is going to be essential to growing as a couple. Her sex toy is not going to
lead her to cheating or ending things, but your insecurities may.
Here’s a tip that most men don’t know: Those sex toys –
the ones that on the surface make some men feel jealous, angry or inferior — can become
our biggest allies in bed. Don’t waste your time worrying if you compare or stack
up to a toy. You don’t get angry at your car for being able to get you to work
faster than your legs. Why get mad at a sex toy? It’s just doing its job and trying
to help you and your partner out. Once you rationalize the distorted
logic behind your anger toward a battery-operated device that can’t cuddle,
support, love, or communicate, you may begin to see some pleasant and pleasurable
changes. If you use a sex toy with your partner during sex, for example, placing a
vibrator on the clitoris of your partner during intercourse, she’ll probably like
it. She may enjoy the time you both spend sexually. She might orgasm more often or more
powerfully. She may think you’re a magician and that vibrator is your magic wand.
And when she’s having a girls night out and the ladies are talking about their sex
lives, she’ll be saying how amazing her sex life is and what a great lover her man
is. Yup, the vibrator puts in effort and you get the credit because it becomes an
extension of your lovemaking ability. To me, a great lover is one who helps facilitate
pleasure for their partner, not inhibit it.

Masturbation Exhibitionism

I have this thing where I like to masturbate in random places and I keep track of
where I’ve done it. It’s kind of a game or just something I do. Is this
normal?-Mike, Baltimore People href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_200/233_love_tip.html”> masturbate in
random places and at random times, so it’s perfectly normal. Most people
don’t talk about where or when they’ve masturbated, but it’s often
different for different people. I’ve heard places including in the car while
driving, at school, in the library, at world landmarks, and at family members’ homes. I wouldn’t characterise your game as not normal, just unique. I do want to
bring up that if you’re playing this game, you want to respect the rights of others and
not expose yourself to people who have no desire to be a part of it. Use your best
judgment so that you don’t put yourself or others at risk (masturbating in public,
non-legal, href=”http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_500/533b_understanding-fetishes-voyeurism-exhibitionism.html”>exhibitionistic,
or coercive expressions, etc). The point is, keep it respectful, legal and
clean. Since it’s not in my nature to crush someone’s sexual expression, how
about a modification? Why not random places, random times in toilets? There’s a
toilet almost everywhere you go. You’re private, no one to disrespect and it’s not
illegal — just you, the porcelain god and a little self-lovin’.More from Dr.
Chaves, next…

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