The main difference is a defined strategy based on a clear plan that’s created so the couple can track their progress.
Men specifically like this approach. The plan takes the couple from where they are to where they want to be in easy steps. This all takes into account the way men and women process information totally differently. Men generally are not good with feeling based chats.
Men want to know what to do to fix the problem(s)?
Note: The past only becomes important and is explored if it’s clearly blocking the couples ability to create the outcome they desired.
The process is educational because the couple will be unaware of the key factors that took them from love to destruction.
Much of the problems couples face is due to the significant differences between men and women. When couples are taught these differences their expectation shifts as they both start to appreciate how different each others world really is.
The start of all work is not focused on the couples problems as this will make them feel worse at a time when things are bad enough. The focus is on rebuilding the foundations of really understanding each other.
This is effective because it shifts the couple away from their problems and towards what they can do to feel better. This creates confidence as the couple learns what to do that genuinely supports each others needs.
Rebuilding the foundations is critical because it rebuilds trust and respect. Without trust and respect the relationship will die.