Everything I say gets distorted and thrown back at me
My girlfriend is passive-aggressive. We are in a long-distance relationship, and she had a string of horrible relationships before ours, as well as a more than rough childhood. With that in mind, I do not blame her for being as she is. But her comments have so much bite to them, they really hurt. And when I point this out to her she just says, “Oh, I’m just sharing my feelings with you. Isn’t that what you want?”
I love her more than anybody I have ever loved in my life. Her children are the most amazing kids I have ever met and I want to be a part of their lives. But she is driving me away and she doesn’t even know it. When she’s angry, everything I say gets distorted and thrown back at me. Sometimes I slip and point this out to her, which only makes things worse. I can’t talk to her about her anger because she always says, “I’m fine.” I hate those two words. How do I get her to realise that she’s passive-aggressive and seek help?
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