Can one person save a marriage from divorce?

When a person makes changes in themselves they affect how the other person responds. If the changes help their partner to feel secure, loved and wanted in the way they need, then a change in the marriage is totally possible.

The challenge is most people don’t understand their partners well enough to support them in the way they need, so their partner can become angry at their attempts and so they give up assuming there is no hope and this is not true.

All people really want is to feel they are loved for who they are and to know there is a real desire from their partners to meet their needs. In other words they need to feel like the most important person in their partners life.

So if one person takes charge and takes steps to learn about their partner, their partner will in reaction have to respond to these new changes.

The question I ask my clients is “who do you have to become to attract the relationship you desire?” 

This focus is all about putting the power in the hands of the individuals rather than sitting back and expecting their partner to make all the changes.

So my expectation of all my clients is if you want an amazing relationship become amazing because your relationship is a reflection of what you have fed it up until today.

“But what if I don’t get the love back?” …they cry… “What if they just continue to take from me I’m going to look like a fool.”

Here is my answer…

If the best of you isn’t good enough for them then maybe you are in the wrong relationship. BUT be very careful that the best of you is based on what you know your partner really needs and not what you think they need.

“How long should I be the best for?”

I suggest you never stop being the best you can be because why would you want anything other than the best for yourself.

More to the point how attractive do you think you are to be with if you’re holding back through fear.

Many individuals who feel they are losing their marriage come to me for help on their own. So if your partner won’t come for help don’t give up because there is so much to learn and do differently.

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About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.