Body Language Hands Feet & Body

In this weeks “Who is attracted to you” body language series we will look at the body and what’s it doing to communicate attraction to others.

Next time you are out, start to notice what others are doing because their body is giving off signals constantly and we are picking up these signals and converting them into meanings without knowing, so lets turn these subconscious messages into conscious messages.

Body language makes up for 70%+ of our communication, so people don’t have to speak to tell you how they are feeling and if they are interested in you.

What’s really important to decipher all these messages is not just to look for one or two signals because these could be an accident, so look for a multiple signals.

Body Language Tips

It’s logical to know that if someone is attracted to you they will want to look their best for you. So their mind will be directed to their self-image and what they look like. This will focus them to their own hair and clothes and without knowing they will start to preen themselves, they will adjust their hair, and straighten and tidy their clothes.

Men will try to make themselves look bigger, with puffed out chests, legs apart, maybe even thumbs in jeans and elbows out, anything to be bigger than they really are, women will try to look smaller with crossed legs and arms in tight. You may notice tall women can develop a slight stoop as she tries to look shorter.

Both men and women will subconsciously point their feet to the person they are attracted to. So they could be chatting with friends in a bar and pointing their feet at you.

They will do the same with hands, they will be directing you their hand to what they want you to see on them or they will be pointing at you, could be whilst holding a glass.

Listen to the voices

Men will lower their voices when around women they are attracted to and women’s voices will become higher. Nature has designed us to be attracted to the differences in the sexes so our reflex response is to create exaggerated differences without knowing.

  • If you work with a female boss you will notice that she has had to make her voice become lower. She has done this without knowing, so she can survive in the male business world.

A group of women in a bar will become louder with giggles, shrieks and a full range of female sounds designed to attract near by attractive males.

A man who is with a group of his friends will stand outside of the group so possible female admirers can get a good look at him.

There are many more things to look out for, but this will help you notice what you notice about the world you are in.

The key is to notice as many signals as possible then when the person is not looking move to a different position so you can still see them. If they turn to look to where you were originally standing/sitting and then scan the room for you, then you know for sure they are attracted.

The acid test is lots of eye contact combined with a confident smile. If you receive this then you now need to discover what to do next.

Eye Patterns – Body Language Of Desire

Eye Patterns: In my last post we looked at discovering who is attracted to you through their eye patterns.

In today’s post I will expand on how the eyes can give away true feelings of attraction.

The eyes never lie…

When we are attracted to people, chemicals within us start to react automatically. If the attraction is really  strong the chemicals within us will be preparing us for an encounter of the bedroom variety, this is not a choice, this is automatic.

The secret give-a-way is that if this is happening within someone who is experiencing a high level of attraction to you, then their eyes will become glassy as if they have had been drinking.

This happens because as the sexual organs within us start to prepare us with a rise in our bodily fluids, this increase is also reflected in our eyes and this is the give away.

This could be useful to know on your dates, however remember don’t get confused by dates where drink is involved because, drink will give the impression of this reaction.

In cosmetic terms glassy eyes are more attractive as we are conditioned to respond to them, again this happens all without us knowing.

Imagine now how many messages are being set and picked up by us with out us knowing… Until now!

Body Language: Who is attracted to you?

Would you like to know who is attracted to you as you go about your daily life? I’m now going to share some body language tips to look out for that will reveal the thoughts in the minds of those around you.

Sometimes it’s very difficult to know if someone is attracted to you or not. If you’re dating then understanding this would be a great asset. If you are in a relationship it’s good to know the reaction you are having on others so you can act appropriately, and avoid difficult situations.

I’m going to cover this topic over the next few days because there is a lot to cover, so lets start with the messages we can read from people’s eye patterns.

Eye patterns that equal potential attraction

These eye patterns are not conscious and so the person is unaware of what they are doing. Their eyes are purely reflecting the feelings they are having in response to you.

In a platonic relationship or a business relationship their eye pattern will be to scan your face in a triangular fashion that goes from one eye to another to the nose and back to the eyes. This will indicate a non-sexual conversation.

They will randomly repeat this pattern through the conversation with you.

As soon as their attention goes past the nose and to the lips and back to the eyes then you have a potential attraction going on, remember they will be unaware of what they are doing.

If the eye pattern goes from eye-to-eye and lower than lips, then it very clear that an attraction is likely. At this point men and women will go from being unaware of what they are doing to suddenly being very aware as their feelings become intense.

Attraction confirmation is when the glances become more sexual, the lips are the start so watch what happens next.

A man maybe suddenly be shocked to find he is looking at a woman’s breasts. Or a woman may suddenly be horrified that she is looking at a mans crotch.

You may now start to become aware of what people are doing, but don’t worry this is all very normal and harmless and remember 9 times out of 10 their behaviours are reflex, so take it as a compliment as the nature in them is attracted to the nature and beauty in you.

So have fun looking into the minds of others and tomorrow we will look at what else the eyes do when some one is really attracted to you.

We will also build a picture of many patterns this week from arms, to hands, to feet, to how we stand and what it all means.