I love her because…

This is Mrs Hedger it’s probably about time you met her.
Today we are going to focus on what you are grateful for and that focus is directed at your partner.

I will start with why I am so grateful for Mrs Hedger.

I am so grateful for Mrs Hedger because even if I had sat down and designed a person to spend my life with I couldn’t have designed someone this perfect for me. [Read more...]

What has to happen for you to love YOU?

Many people have no idea how to love themselves. You have to feel that love inside you to be able to give it, so it is critical.

Take some time with this question and learn more about you.

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What has to happen for you to be able to give your partner what they need?

Many couples hold back giving through resentment and loss of respect. Discover the top ten things that created those feelings for you and share them with your partner.

You partner may be totally unaware of how you really feel so help them understand you better and see what you can learn and that could help you grow..

I want to give to my partner when…

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What has to happen for you to feel that you can be YOU in your relationship

Many people feel that their relationship has changed them and so they lose their identity. Discover the top ten things that will help you rediscover you. Many individuals in relationships don’t share what they really need to help them be who they were designed to be.

So help your partner to know more about your dreams and passions and how they can help you to create a future that equals the real you is present in your relationship.

I feel excited when…

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What has to happen for you to feel excited about your relationship?

Discover the top ten things that create the variety you need in your relationship and then share them with your partner. Many couples don’t share what they really need the passion the adventure the excitement from the big things to the little things what is it that makes a difference for you.

So help your partner to know what equals an exciting life to you by sharing how they could really become successful with you.

I feel excited when…

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What has to happen for you to feel your relationship is growing

If your relationship isn’t growing it dying so having and a purpose together is critical. Discover the top ten things that equals growth for you and then share them with your partner. Couples don’t share what they really need and their partner could feel all is ok when really it isn’t.

So help your partner to know what growth means to you by sharing how they could really become successful with you.

I feel we are growing as a couple when…

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What has to happen for you to feel you matter in your relationship

Discover the top ten things that means you feel you are important to your partner and then share them with your partner. Many couples don’t share what they really need and feel and so their partner is left guessing.

So help your partner to love you more by sharing how they could really become successful with you.

I feel I matter to you when…

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What has to happen for you to feel more certain about your future together?

Discover the top ten things and then share them with your partner. Many couples don’t share what they are really feeling. Their partner is then failing without knowing.

So help your partner to keep you feeling more certain about the future by sharing how they could really become successful with you.

I feel more certain about our future when…

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Love week – What has to happen for you to feel loved in your relationship?

Discover the top ten things and then share them with your partner. Many couples don’t share what they really need and so their partner is left guessing.

So help your partner to love you by sharing how they could really become successful with you.

I feel loved when…

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How can I get Love?

What has to happen for us to get LOVE? Most of us want love. Many never really get in a way which is honest and true. Couples can spend a life time together, but never get to really experience it. In today’s post I will explain why…

There is one key factor that stops them achieving true love, it’s them!

I once asked a gentleman in a session why did he feel his wife was wrong for him, and why did the lady he was having an affair with feel right?

His answer he gave told me all I needed to know…

He shared with me a list of what the affair with had given him. In that moment I knew he was focused on what he was getting from her. “Getting” is the key word!

His marriage had stopped working for him because his wife had stopped giving to him through her fears and disappointment at his attitude to her and so he was no longer “getting” love. [Read more...]

What Has to Happen for YOU to Love YOU?

Is loving YOU something you find easy, or is it selfish and self-indulgent? What is the real cost of getting this wrong?

One of these answers causes people real problems for themselves, their relationships and their children. As you skip through this post you will start to understand why!

In fact one of these answers actually expands further than just love it expands to the way they meet their core values. In other words they don’t see the value in themselves.

The only way they feel they create the value in themselves is through giving to others.

Only when they get a reaction from others will they feel their value in this world, as you read on you’ll notice this causes a them an inner conflict because this behaviour is a contradiction of their beliefs.

If they ever feel they are not valued from anyone this will hit them hard because they already feel that’s true!

They find it hard to have a good time on their own and so keep busy, or spend time with others. They are on a constant search to feel good through the validation of others. [Read more...]

Love tip of the day: How does love happen?

If you want to feel love, then you have to give it! As soon as someone in a couple pulls love away the problems start.

You see, love only happens when we give it. Most people are under the illusion that people give us love. What actually happens is we translate their words or actions into a feeling. If we agree their action equals love to us, we then feel safe to give them a loving action back.

  • It is at the point we give love back is the point when our love is felt.

Your partner does not have magical powers to make you have a feeling, we create all our own feelings based on our reactions to others. We all know this is true because in past relationships we know we started to feel that something was wrong. So if our partners at that time tried to give us love, unless we agree it feels like love we wouldn’t give it back. The result was we didn’t feel love no matter how much they say they loved us. [Read more...]