Are you and your partner team?

When two people decide to give the best years of their life to each other it’s a wonderful commitment.

They have chosen to go on a journey through life with each other, they have chosen to become a team, some couples choose to become leaders of a bigger team as children become part of their plan.

So to build a successful team we need clear goals and we need to know the strengths and weaknesses of the team members so the journey to the chosen goals becomes easier.

Any business leader knows this is critical if they are to gain the outcomes they are after. [Read more...]

Marriage reconciliation: Can a marriage with years of problems be saved?

Marriage Reconciliation is it possible really?  Well those that have been reading my posts for a while now will know my answer. Why? Because I see it every day in my practice.

BUT today I’m going to share with you how it’s actually possible, why do my clients create a shift that changes their marriage from a total belief it’s NOT possible to solve their marriage problems to creating a connected passion that’s deeper than they have ever experienced. [Read more...]

What’s my role in my life and am I living my true identity?

I tell this story in my sessions to help couples question themselves and what they are thinking and doing in connection with their partners and their children. This is about our identity, how we see ourselves and how this leads us in our most important roles in life.

One day in Harley Street I was waiting for a lift to take me to the third floor. A man carrying a very heavy bag walked towards me.

He struggled with his bag and put it down, slightly out of breath he stood next to me. [Read more...]

Marriage Crisis Help: What do we do?

If your marriage is in crisis this means that one of you is starting to give up because they feel they have enough proof the relationship is wrong for them.

The crisis is usually caused by one person saying they have had enough and they are thinking of leaving because they are so unhappy.

This can sound pretty final. If you want to save your marriage, there are very easy and very powerful steps you can take to find out if you are really compatible. [Read more...]

How To Save Your Marriage Alone!

If you want your marriage to work and your partner won’t seek help what do you do? This post is about how to save your marriage alone.

How you can make a difference in your relationship even if your partner doesn’t want to try?

The starting point is this: You have to know it is possible to save your marriage on your own, but you’re going to have to make some changes in the way you listen, understand your partner and how you behave. [Read more...]

Is your marriage this bad?

These are all live cases that came for my help….

Case 1. She decided she wanted to live in the country without him, kids had left home and she couldn’t bear the thought of them spending the rest of their lives together.

Case 2. She thought her husband didn’t love her, he spent all his time away from her doing the bear minimum, he thought the relationship would have to end.

Case 3. He had an affair which resulted in a child, his wife kicked him out. [Read more...]

How And Why It Works?

With a consistently high success rate for the couples I work with, why is what I do so successful for couples in, or heading for crisis?

In short I help them discover how to become a team together. Below is the three key steps steps that move my clients very quickly from destruction to love. Before I take you through those steps, I will share the end of just one of the many letters I get from my clients…

A recent client wrote to me who had multiple challenges marital and personal. They had sought help from a few professionals, but nothing had changed.

This is the end of her email to me after we worked together for just 7 weeks. [Read more...]

This is NEW and is just for YOU

My life’s’ mission is to help as many people as I can understand how to unravel the complexity of personal relationships.

The challenge I always face is how, I started this FREE relationship building blog which now has over 500 pages of advice designed to prick the curiosity of my readers.

Some readers have written to thank me sharing how giving them hope has shifted their desire to put in more effort and it’s reaped rewards for them.

I also run weekly sessions in Harley Street where couples come looking for me to take them step-by-step to learn how together they do actually have the power and ability to build a successful relationship.

It’s very successful, 95% of couples in my 3 month high intensity program do decide not to divorce. These are figures I’m very proud of. [Read more...]

How to save a relationship in crisis?

In today’s post I’m going to look a relationships in crisis and what you have to stop focusing on to fix it and what will give you the best chance of discovering the truth in your relationship.

A relationship crisis can happen for many reasons and it’s a hideous place for both people to be in. Full of uncertainty, fears such as rejection, betrayal, loss of love, feeling of not being enough. The couple can feel it’s hopeless as they are powerless to see how they can overcome their problems. Especially if their problems have been present for a while. [Read more...]

Without this skill most will relationships fail…

Yes it’s true, to build a successful relationship a particular skill is needed and if it is missing the survival of the relationship is dramatically challenged.

This skill is important for everyone, because everyone is different and without it couples struggle to feel secure with each other.

Security is critical in a relationship and this skill will help to build that safety.

The relationship needs to flow and feel easy and this skill will help the couple to feel that flow. [Read more...]

Marriage Tip Five: Understand Why You Are Together?

Will a couple survive if they don’t share a reason to be together? Couples who plan their journey though life and work as a team towards those goals are far more likely to want to stay together because they have a real purpose.

Creating that purpose helps to build a strong lasting intimate connection.

Most couples vision starts with attracting each other, moving in, getting engaged, getting married and having children. The couple excited about life can race through these goals within a few years. [Read more...]

Marriage Tip Four: The Power Of The Vicious Circle

You know the situation, your partner has assumed you have done something to hurt them. You try to explain that they are wrong and they have misunderstood you, but they won’t listen. Frustrated you end up losing your temper and now the problem is escalating out of control.

What started off as a simple disagreement is now a power struggle where hurt, resentment, disbelief and a loss of love starts to grow.

Both people end up feeling misunderstood and unloved. [Read more...]

Marriage Tip Three: Never Ever Give Up Without The Real Facts

One of my clients asked me, why have I decided to work with couples with marriage problems and why specifically have I decided to work with couples in extreme marital crisis?

This for me was an easy question, because…

I am passionate about relationships and family. I am especially passionate about helping lost couples find their way back to each others hearts. Also when I know there are other little hearts involved I feel even more responsibility to guide them all to safety.

  • I believe that no matter how bad a marriage becomes, couples can turn their relationship around quickly, the reason so many don’t is because they don’t know how. So exhausted they give up trying.   [Read more...]

Marriage Tip Two: Are You Enough For Your Partner?

If a person has a life without a planned direction or purpose then what should that person should expect from their life?

What would happen to the couple without direction or life purpose, they get married and don’t plan their journey through life? What should they expect from their life together?

The secret to success in this world is simple, you have to work out where you can add value and plan to add lots of value to whatever is important to you. [Read more...]

Marriage Tip One: Be Aware That Your Mind Will Grow Whatever You Feed It?

Whatever you feed your mind will come true. You will become what you think most about. This law is universal and in relationships it’s very obvious to see.

Follow the words below and see how you can
relate this to your life and relationship.

When a couple first meets and they share that powerful magnetic attraction for each other. What they are going to be focused on is what’s so great about their new lover.

They can daydream about all the great qualities their new lover has, they feel excited and full of anticipation, the world looks brighter and more exciting and it’s not long before they run around telling their family and friends how amazing their new lover is. [Read more...]

NEW “FREE Marriage Tips”

Over the next few weeks I will be sharing important information that has helped many marriages come back from the edge of divorce. So please email your friends share this page and next week we will get started.

Why is this information important?

There is no formal education open to the public on how to build successful relationships. This has proved to be devastating for couples who marry expecting their love to last.

They don’t know how their love was created. So when the inevitable problems arise they don’t know how to grow closer through their problems so they pull love away to protect themselves. It’s not long before the couple have lost the focus that created their passion and they are now focused on what’s wrong and their problems.

This is disaster for any relationship. [Read more...]