Why relationships go bad

If your relationship has gone bad then something has changed.

One of the most likely reasons is the relationship has stopped growing.

To grow your relationship you have to have exciting compelling goals together. When you first met you and your partner had goals to see each other, goals to learn more about each other, goals to get them to like you. Goals to have passionate weekends away, goals to live together, goals buy a house, goals to get married goals to have children.

In the early days with a life so full of goals you both felt so close and alive and so you wanted the next adventure together.

What happens in most relationships is the goals die. Life takes over work, friends, hobbies, children and money become the new goals and the relationship gets left out.

When the goals die the relationship dies, the couple struggle to see the point of being together although they may stay together longer if they have better financial security together than apart.

If this happen then on top of a dead relationship come resentment and a lack of respect for each other.

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Are You Trading In Your Relationship?

Are you in a trading relationship? Does your partner have to do something for you before you will do something for them, or is it the other way around?

“I’ll do that for you if you do that for me!”


Maybe you are doing this because your parents did, think back, were your parents loving to each other when they were like this or was the atmosphere hard and lacking softness and love.

Trading relationships are destructive for love and passion.

If you and your partner live in this life then the passion love and respect will have gone or be on its way out.

The only way to get the passion back into your life is to give, give and give some more, and ask for nothing in return.

Then watch as if by magic your relationship takes on a whole new meaning. Try it let me know how you get on.

Differences Between The Sexes – Communication

Have you ever wondered why men and women struggle to understand each other?

There are many, many reasons, but here is one that might help.

Do you notice that women can talk and talk and talk and never really seem to have a point. For example they can go on a shopping trip and talk at length at everything they did and saw, tried on liked and disliked.

Why when women talk about their day like this do men switch off.

Do the men not love their partners?…

Are the men bored of hearing the women talk, is this a sign something is going wrong in the relationship, do you both need to talk about he fact your not talking like you both used to?

No the men get frustrated because they are constantly looking for ways to help women (note if he has stopped doing this then there will be a reason), the longer there is nothing to fix the more frustrated they become and so they give up.

The woman notices everything and so she sees the man give up and then gives it a meaning, such as he is going off her, doesn

Quick Relationship Tips – Assumptions Equals Break Up!

One of the biggest reason couples split up is because they assume they know the meanings behind what their partner does or says.

I hear many couples telling each other what they meant and then they argue about it.

These assumptions can build up stacking more and more untruths on top of each other.

These untruths build up a negative set of beliefs and before long the victim of this bad press gets blamed for all the wrongs they have done.

Confused they defend themselves and this only make the situation worse.

Never assume your partner has a negative intention in anything they say or do because most of the time you will be wrong.

If you are unsure or confused then ask them what they meant.

How To Mend A Broken Heart

The steps for how to mend a broken heartGetting involved in relationships no matter what age you are can be the most amazing experience and the most traumatic.

When someone experiences a break up the whole world comes to a grinding halt.

The pain can be excruciating, you try everything to get away from the pain but nothing works, it follows you everywhere even into your dreams.

You feel there is nothing you can do… but there is…

Anyone with a broken heart will run situations, conversations or images of their partner and what happened over and over in their head.

It is this constant focus on all this information related to what has happened is what’s causing the pain.

What also happens is the person goes through a grieving process where the future they imagined now cannot exist so they feel a sense of loss.

How to stop the pain…

Turn your focus to you an image of you both together in five years time, both unhappy and arguing, you comfort eating and gaining weight he’s out drinking and chatting up easy girls – in other words create a future you don’t want and run that one over and over.

Whatever your focus on make sure it’s an image of the life you don’t want.

This way your focus will change and the pain will go faster…

If you need help call me.

Punish Your Partner At Your Peril

I was recently reading that one of the top reasons relationships break up is due to wives moaning at their husbands.

Now! I know that when a woman complains, the words she uses bears no relationship to the real reason she is complaining, but the man doesn

How to keep your man happy

If you want to keep your man, then you’ll need this important secret to unlocking the power in him to make you feel like a woman.

Just like you every man is different, but…

There are some basic principals for you to understand if you are to get the best out of him, help him to feel great about himself and attach all those amazing feelings to you.

There is a myth that all men are only really interested in one thing – It’s the butt of many jokes, but is also a rule that most women believe and so live by in their relationships.

Yes it’s true men do want that, BUT..!

There is one thing that men want more than that, and until women understand this basic rule they will always find they’ll have problems with him… I’ll explain…

This is your lesson:

“Your Man wants to be able to make you happy… More than anything!”

This is important: When she is not happy then a man will think he has failed her and himself. Even if what she is not happy about is not his fault he will try to help her fix it. Nine times out of ten she doesn’t want him to fix anything and she get frustrated, because all she wants to do is share her feelings. He takes this as a rejection and further proof of his inability to help her be happy.

Did you ever notice how good he feels when he does something you really like?

If a man starts to experience that his efforts are not making his partner happy he will start to feel really bad about himself. He will then at some point have his thoughts confirmed as his partner will mention she is not happy with his behaviour on some level.

If a man experiences this too many times he will stop trying to please her, because to him whatever he does will be pointless and will associate him with failure and more bad feelings to attach to his woman. If he loves her he will hate these feelings and reject himself further.

He will feel totally insignificant in the relationship and go to where in can feel important outside of the relationship. This could be friends, hobbies, working late or if he is feeling a real failure an affair could be an option.

This will cause even more problems because whatever he’s is doing it is not spending time with her. The woman will now be left alone, feel unappreciated and she will complain about that. This feeds even more proof that he can never be successful with her.

So what’s the solution? How can you keep him?

Give him as many ways to please you as possible. Make it really easy for him to make you feel good, when he starts feeling like a man again it won’t belong before he makes you feel like a woman.

If you want something fixed go to him with something you know he can fix. If you want to share your feelings, go talk to your girl friends or keep it to ten minutes with him, but no more, because he does not have a clue what you are talking about. Remember to let him know he does not have to do or say anything, just listen.

When he starts to feel that he is at last doing a good job, he will start to want to do more, he will feel great about himself and attach his great feeling and success to his woman.

Understanding his needs are critical for your relationship to be success get addicted to doing that and he will never leave you!