Round Up Of 6 Popular Posts

As 2014 comes to an end I thought it would be helpful for you to have access to some popular posts.

  1. Women want a real man 

  2. When is a relationship most vulnerable? 

  3. How to fix a broken marriage no matter what’s happened? 

  4. How can I trust you if you don’t even try to understand me? 

  5. 7 Steps to building a secure passionate and everlasting love 

  6. The Warrior & The Princess

Cloé turned to me and said….

I know you only received a post from me yesterday, but Cloé said something to me last night and I wanted to share this with you.

So Cloé and I were sat watching the Xfactor last night and James Jay was singing “I’m going to be (500 miles)”. Cloe turned to me and said “I love that song”.

I agreed, but she repeated, “I love that song because that’s what you would do for me…You would walk 500 hundred miles for me.”

She is right I would and much more.

In fact I have spent 1,000s and 1,000s of hours learning how I can be the best husband I can be for her.

She is the most important person in [Read more...]

Coming soon: New Video Training from the “Relationship Academy”

Cloe and I have been planning this project for a while. We really wanted to help couples across the world gain access to video training that could teach the fundamentals of relationship building in the comfort of their own home.

I have many subscribers that simply cannot get to the UK for my one-on-one consultancy. So this will help everyone understand the fundamental philosophies and skills that are helping my clients go from serious problems to understanding and relief as they rebuild their marriages.

I’m very excited about this project because it helps me to reach more people in a very powerful way.

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The Relationship Academy will answer the hot questions that couples struggle to understand the answers to.

These videos will unearth the key focus that need to be in place if you want your relationship not just to last, but to remain passionate.

If you are interested to know when this goes live please click here.

 

Thank you

Dear Valued Readers

I know that some of you have been readers for many years and I want to thank you for your ongoing support and your kind words. Today I want to give you free advice that is more targeted to your problem.

Many of you have written to me to tell your stories and how my posts have helped, by the way I do love reading the letters. I am committed to keeping this free online help going and I want to be more affective for you. I want to become more relevant to your specific problems.

>>>So with this in mind I need your help… [Read more...]

Cloé Hedger Being the Wife of Relationship Coach Stephen Hedger – Simon Cowell & Lifes Journey

cloenewCloé Hedger formally pop star Allison Jordan speaks about her relationship with Simon Cowell. What lead her to be a pop star and her life today with relationship coach Stephen Hedger…

[Please note: Videos on this page are not showing on mobiles. Videos are viewable from PCs and macs.]

If you have ever had a relationship coaching session with Stephen Hedger, then no doubt you have heard of me in one of his stories. He does tell me that he uses me and our relationship in his sessions and that people are curious about what it’s is like to be the wife of a relationship coach.

So I thought I would introduce myself, tell you a little about my background and a little about being the wife of a relationship coach.

[Read more...]

The Warrior & The Princess

When the warrior first meets and falls for the princess he marvels at her beauty, he stands by her side looking after her, protecting her and loving her. Full of his love the princess connects with his powerful presence, his honestly and his strength for her. 

She looks into his eyes and sees the future clearly, a wonderful life is possible with a warrior like this she feels. She knows this man loves her and she can see he will become a great man, so her future looks full and secure.

So the princess gives herself to the warrior and they agree to spend their life together. Every day the warrior goes into battle, his mission to protect his family.

She loves and nurtures her new family and she is absorbed with her new role, she is no longer just a princess she is now a mother and lover too. [Read more...]

Groundhog Day…

Many couples live in a Groundhog Day existence , with activities such as work, children, same kinds of things happen every day.

This kind of life just happens to people they don’t actually plan it…

So do you ever feel like this, maybe you’re bored with life and you wished there was more? Or maybe you are one of the lucky ones that’s got the perfect life?

Well it got me thinking, what if you were to design the perfect Groundhog Day, what would it look like?

This is the Groundhog Day you would be very happy to live every day… [Read more...]

Successful Marriages Don’t Just Happen…

Couples with problems all suffer from the same basic challenge. You see if a marriage is to survive then the focus of the individuals has to change.

Take a moment and think about the type of relationship that equals the one that you really want, the one that will fill you up, the one that will help you to feel all those emotions you long for.

Now ask yourself another question, who do I have to be to attract that relationship into my life?

Many people are disappointed with the way their partner behaves. [Read more...]

Cloe Hedger Being the Wife of a Relationship Coach – Simon Cowell & Lifes Journey

Cloe Hedger formally Allison Jordan speaks about her relationship with Simon Cowell. What lead her to being a pop star and her life today with relationship coach Stephen Hedger…

If you have ever had a relationship coaching session with Stephen Hedger, then no doubt you have heard of me in one of his stories. He does tell me that he uses me and our relationship in his sessions and that people are curious about what it’s is like to be the wife of a relationship coach.

So I thought I would introduce myself, tell you a little about my background and a little about being the wife of a relationship coach.

I am pleased to make your acquaintance, my name is Cloe, but I was once called Allison…

There is so much to tell you, there is so much in my past that had a major effect on how I [Read more...]

The internal fight within us breaks relationships we actually want to keep

I agree that many of you may find some of what I teach to build successful relationships goes against the grain of what you have believed and have been taught historically.

Putting your partner first, not making them wrong, giving love unconditionally can seem impossible but….

…is the challenge you face to protect what you have always done, or is it to discover new ways grow the passion back into your relationship? [Read more...]

Simple laws of life…

The most natural thing to do when life seems to be going wrong is to feel consumed by all your problems. You could talk to others about your problems, play them over and over in your mind. It could be that when life goes wrong you have learnt that worry is what you do, maybe mum was a worrier, or dad didn’t trust people.

Whatever you do when things go wrong is learnt, but there is an outcome that worry creates as the natural laws of life come into play.

  • If you expect to fail, expect to fail.
  • If you focus on worry, your life will be full of worry.
  • If you think you can’t do some thing then you you’ll be right.
  • If you look for what’s wrong you find lots of things that are wrong.
  • If you hold back love expect love to be on hold.
  • If you focus on a life you don’t want, expect to get that life.
  • If you feel you are not lucky, luck will avoid you.

People that are conditioned to be negative and sceptical certainly have their place. For example [Read more...]

We all want passionate lasting relationships so why do so many couples struggle?

I want to say that I really do feel for all couples that are struggling to make their relationship work, it is one of the hardest places to be. I know because I too was once in this place, lost, frustrated, angry why could I not make them work for me?

Because I know personally the pain that couples go through from my own experiences my biggest pleasure today is helping couples understand their truth. Some couple should not be together, but many are struggling not because they are wrong for each other, but because they are missing some key information.

What if just a few things make 80% of the difference for couples. What if all couples could quickly learn those critical steps they could take?

Most couples put so much effort into dating each other and have no idea what works and what doesn’t so they stop doing what works without knowing.

Over the years they practice doing what will ultimately kill their relationship, but they don’t mean to, they don’t know they are doing it.

Couples can assume the wrong things about each other for years.

If couples were really aware of the massive differences between male and female their perspective on their relationship and how they respond to each other would change in an instant.

But of course the differences between the sexes is just a part of the mix for success.

  • Growing from conflict
  • Planning a life together
  • Building lasting trust
  • Meeting each other core needs

All this combined with undoing the myths that society hypnotise us all with, plus one key the key to creating a relationship where you can be truly you.

That key is to understand you and what equals happiness for you. How do you create fulfilment for yourself?

If you knew the key to your relationship with yourself then helping others become successful with you would be so much easier.

These are some of the simple steps that couples can take with me to discover their truth with me.

Your relationship is valuable if what you have done so far has not worked please don’t assume it will sort it’s self out with time. Something has to change and the assumption the relationship is wrong could be the wrong one.

Spreading The Love Video

With so much pain and suffering in the world and with so many people in their own personal pain for many different reasons, any chance for a small break from those troubles is a welcomed break.

When you watch this video below notice what you feel and what you want to do. Giving love is a very powerful way to break down barriers so give love today.

Award Winning Psychologist Joining The Team In Harley Street

I will soon be releasing news of a new addition to my practice in Harley Street.

As a compliment to my life and relationship coaching/mentoring services this highly experienced Psychologist will be offering her services and wealth of experience to all my clients existing and new.

If you are interested to learn more, an official release will be out soon.

To your success.

Kind regards

Stephen Hedger

Wishing You A Wonderful Christmas

To those of you I have had the privilege to meet and to those I have yet to meet I want to wish you and your families a wonderful Christmas and a New Year that’s full of all you desire!

As this year comes to a close and we all reflect on what’s happened, I wonder where your mind takes you. I wonder if this year 2011 has been your year, or maybe you plan for 2012 to be your new start.

Whatever journey you are on, setting yourself up to win will be my focus for all my readers in 2012.

So what do you want to change when you enter 2012?

What has to change in 2012 for you?

Let’s plan to make 2012 the best year yet…

So as you start to wind down easy in the knowledge that the plan for the New Year is to Plan For Success, safe in this knowledge, you can now turn your mind to a time to rest, to recharge, to love those you love and to give to those you care for.

For now the plan can wait…

My very best wishes to you all

Stephen Hedger

Interested Piece in the Guardian – “Therapy stole my boyfriend”

I get news from accross the globe on all issues news regarding relationships, counselling, therapy, coaching and the work carried out by those wanting to help with relationship problems.

I recieved an alert for me to read an article in the Guardian yesterday very interesting…

I would be interested in your thoughts please feel free to comment below.

To read it please  click here and come back to this page with your thoughts.

How to Be Rich!

As a coach I am interested in all areas of improvement from heath to wealth. What I find is how the methods used to help people become financially free and healthier are the same foundational principles that I use to help people create better relationships.

So in principal if you understand one then the foundations are in place to understand them all.

What are the barriers to success

So what are the key areas that will block people from creating wealth and fitness that are totally in line with why couples are blocked from creating successful relationships.

1. Fear

2. Cynicism

3. Laziness

4. Bad Habits

5. Arrogance


1. Fear

Anyone that is experiencing relationship problems is going to be in fear that the future will not be the way they want it to be. This fear creates poor states that disable the person from acting in a way that creates growth for themselves and the relationship. In this place the person can feel disconnected and dislike who they are becoming.

2. Cynicism

Couples can become cynical about their relationship because they feel that over the years they have collected enough proof the relationship is wrong. Of course with two people in fear, feeling disconnected with who they really are, the couple start to feel the relationship has changed from when they first met and they are no longer compatible.

3. Laziness

People become lazy because they can’t see a way forward. They lose motivation when they don’t get the results they want fast. Instead of looking for new answers they keep repeating the old ones, hoping that a new change in their partner will happen. This never works so they stop putting effort in and they become lazy.

4. Bad Habits

Habits get learnt through a persons life and if they are taught how to create relationship by those that are equally lost (their parents), then the foundations are too weak to hold a relationship together. They become their bad habits without knowing and bit by bit they destroy the relationship in their quest to save it.

5. Arrogance

What then happens is the person with years of distorted perceptions of themselves and their relationship think they understand their problems. In reality they are a million miles away from their truth. So they blame everyone else for their problems and think they know best. Most won’t seek help and even if they do they are just going through the motions. What they usually want is for me to change their partner because it’s their fault.

So if you want to be rich in all that life has to offer then overcoming all the above has to be the focus. You see it is easy to find everything that wrong in a relationship and end it anyone can do that, it’s not until a person has had many failed relationships that they start to ask themselves where does the real problem sit.

Many of course chose through fear to not ask this question decide to forget relationships altogether and live life alone. For them it is better to be alone and right, at least that way they are safe.

Of course they are not safe because inside them sits the proof that really they were never enough and they are not loved.

So what is the truth for you? Is now the time to understand and set yourself free?


Why is it this way?

I remember listening to Jim Rohn one of the mentors I have used on my journey to discover the world and how it really works.

He was a very successful business man who had been lucky enough to have a mentor who knew how to make millions. He taught Mr Rohn his secrets for success and Mr Rohn went from broke to $millions in just 6 years. The public obviously wanted to know the secrets, what information did he receive? How did he make so much money so fast.

So over the years he ran seminars all over the world. People in their thousands came to listen to his stories. Jim knew one thing that always amazing him. Even though the people in the audience knew that he had the secrets to wealth which could transform their lives very few actually took his advice.

He recommended to those audience the books that people should read that he was advised to read. He estimated that only a small percentage would actually go out and buy those books.

He was right only a few did… much to his amazement.

So why is it this way?

Why do people follow experts and then decide not to follow the path they are shown.

The reason I ask this today is I see this with the readers of my blog and those that come to sessions. A few months back a couple came to one of my sessions and they quickly learnt what had gone wrong and why.

They discovered how to fix the problem is the first session and for the first week they had an amazing time together. They came for a second session excited at what they had learnt before and were ready for the next stage.

Three days after the second session they called me, both of them distressed it had all gone wrong and both were talking about divorce again.

When I asked what had happened we discovered that they had both stopped doing what was working in the first week and had gone back to their old ways.

You see, even when they saw the proof for themselves, it’s like they became blind.

If you have been following this blog for a while and you still have problems ask yourself why? Are you going to take action, are you going to discover your truth, if so when?

Remember doing nothing is a choice too.



What they don’t tell you that you probably need to know!

Are there some fundamentals of life that never get taught? Is there some key knowledge that we all really need to know? What if when we were growing up we have been fed the wrong information, or not been guided in a way that serves us. Did your parents really know how to help you understand how you work, or did they guess?

The chances are they were lost too, so they run their lives on feelings and this is how the trouble begins…

What has to happen before you can feel good?

Many people who find they are unhappy with their life will try to change their external world to help them to feel better. The world has taught them this is how to be successful. The problem is this type of control is short lived and doesn’t work…

For example: Some buy stuff to feel good in the moment. Some people change their appearance with a new hair style, or a new dress even to the extreme of plastic surgery. All of these actions do have an instant feel good factor, but it doesn’t last.

We are conditioned to live in reaction

We all like to feel that we are the controllers of us, but this is so far from the truth, we are governed by our pasts and what information that past has fed us. Question yourself now, I know your parents wanted the best for you, but through their teachings they also passed on to you their limiting beliefs which helped to build the fears you have today.

How would it feel if you no longer had to live in reaction to your world. What if you no longer needed to rearrange your world and those in it for you to be OK?

A example of rearranging your world

A lady with a relationship challenge: She doesn’t get the love she needs from her husband and so she consistently goes to get love from her children. This without her knowing, puts pressure on the children and puts her in conflict with herself and with her relationship. She causes further problems as she withholds love to punish her selfish unloving partner.

Firstly her punishment is conditioning from her past. Society teaches us that if someone does us a wrong we punish them. unfortunately punishment does not create love or growth and so the relationship is being weakened each time it happens.

Her punishment comes from her fears that life is not going to be the way it should be.

As a child she would have created coping strategies when life felt wrong and so she will punish, but she could do it in many ways possibility following her parents limiting patterns of behaviour. I.E. Anger, depression, escape, violence, etc…

We are also conditioned to believe that we are qualified to judge each others behaviours of course for the analysis to be correct you would have to be that person which you are not. This incorrect belief gives us more permission to punish.

Also she would have created fears growing up and these fear are driving her to be in conflict with her true self.

She in this place feels disconnected with her true self and he feels she has changed.

She has changed she has a new purpose based on these fears. Instead of love, contribution and growth she has automatically gone to protection and possibly escape. This limits her from being who she truly is.

The change is core within her, when asked if love is important some of the time or all of the time? She answers all the time. So we can clearly see, if love is important all the time, then when she pulls it away to punish her partner she is in conflict with herself.

The being in conflict with ourselves can cause depression.

Meeting Your Partners Needs Are Core Relationship Skills: Are You Up For The Challenge?

The task is to find 5 things per day you love about your partner for just 21 days. Write it down every day and present your “Love List” to your partner on the 22nd day. How you present your “Love List” after 21 days it is up to you. For those of you on your own find 5 things you love about your closest friend.

Most couples and especially those having problems spend a lot of time focused on everything that’s wrong with their relationship. This exercise creates a very different focus and result in the state of the couple.

Of course it is important that your loved ones know how much you love them, but the shift with your happiness as a result of this “GIVING” exercise is the critical factor. The real key to happiness is giving to those you love.

21 days from now the world you live in could feel very different and you may have created a very different pattern in your relationship.

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