…and thank you for your comment. The messages we learn growing up have a profound affect on our lives as adults

It’s critcal that as adults we arm our children for success through understanding.

Great to hear from you.

Warmest regards

Stephen Hedger

Just wanted to comment on your blog about your son and his bullying.

It must be amazing to have the skills to deal with such a dificult and painful sitiation , not much worse than seeing your children in pain. Being able to give the right advice and to see the amazing results of it.

I was taught as a child to ignore bullies and to not give them the satisfaction that they are hurting you. This worked well as a child but as an adult in a relationshp with your husband , how is ignoring their hurtful words and actions going to help, how does it bring you closer? Well obviously it never does , it just makes you feel like youve won the battle , and who wants to live life in a battle , even if you are winning?

I hope you are well.

Regards

Christina.

It is very emotional and it’s especially powerful when you think about their children and how getting this wrong could affect their lives.

Thank you for taking the time to comment…

Very well written – I almost felt I was in the room with you,

Understanding what actually makes you happy is the answer. Most people are focusing on what they think makes you happy, but actually causes more pain.

So any decision that you make that is designed to help you move away from pain is likely to be a wrong decision.

Any decision you make has to be a move towards pleasure, because it is focused on what you want rather than what you don’t want.

Fears create fears!

Once you understand you and why you do what you do, then learning how to create successful relationships become easy.

The fear will be gone and you focus will be on growth and contribution, rather than on your safety in the relationship.