I’m Stuck Do I Divorce Or Not?

I have noticed an interesting trend. More and more individuals are coming asking for my advice alone. They are telling me they can see that I’m consistently helping couples rebuild seemingly dead marriages and want my thoughts on their situation.

Many are in a marriage that has not been working for a while and they have been in a few minds about staying, getting help, or divorcing.

The reason they are in this place is many and varied, but something is blocking them from understanding their situation with enough clarity to take decisive action. For some their situation is very clear from their friends perspective, but even so, none of the options feel right, so they are stuck.

London Lawyers very often send these types of situations to me. These individuals have gone looking to understand their legal position, but are still emotionally stuck.

Common reasons for coming alone

  • I’m not sure if I want my marriage to work.
  • I’ve lost me in my relationship.
  • My partner would never come for help
  • My partner is having an affair I love him/her, but can’t carry on this way.
  • We are emotionally and sexually dead.
  • Communication has died.
  • The relationship is transactional.
  • I’m not sure if we married for the right reasons.
  • I can’t stop thinking about someone else.
  • Is it possible we are just incompatible?

These and many more challenges come to my door, the individuals in this space are suffering and simply want help and direction.

Obvious challenges are their children and the fall out for them, but very often the block goes much deeper and are far harder for the individual to get to.

So my job with all these individuals is to help them gain clarity so any decision they make is done with confidence and certainty.

  • Some individuals learn that divorce is the right decision for them and they understand all the reasons why. This frees the person to confidently move towards a new life.
  • Some individuals learn that just maybe they might have been part of the problem and a different approach would re-ignite their marriage. These people learn how to make their marriage so much better than it was before.

All the individuals are given unique tools and ways to approach their specific situation so they can uncover the real truth.

If this is where you are, please understand that just talking about your situation is not the solution. Initially it can help, but it’s likely to confuse you even more as each voice in your head wants to be heard.

The solution is to get all the thoughts in your mind to agree that the direction you are taking is the right one, this way you can quiet your mind enabling you to move forward.

It might be towards a divorce, or it might be a far better relationship either way, the decision will be designed so you can connect to your true self and can embrace the future that you chose.

So if your fed up of feeling so stuck and want to take control, don’t hesitate again either.

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About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.