Interested Piece in the Guardian – “Therapy stole my boyfriend”

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I recieved an alert for me to read an article in the Guardian yesterday very interesting…

I would be interested in your thoughts please feel free to comment below.

To read it please  click here and come back to this page with your thoughts.

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  1. Stephen

    Well I am seething with indignant rage. If this is what some psychoanalysts are doing then there is something incredibly wrong with the process. Added to that that there appears to be some level of tacit agreement (from Mr Stokoe) that this is OK and can happen is also incredibly worrying
    To hear of someone going to analysis 5 days a week for 5 years has sent cold shivers down my spine.

    The man appears to be in a healthy, happy relationship but nevertheless appears to be addicted to his daily dose of therapy, to the extent that it takes priority over everything else.

    And my guess is that like all addictions the addict doesn’t see it this way.

    Resistance to change can be very strong – I know I resisted changing for quite a few of Stephen’s sessions! But that’s the point it was only a few sessions before I saw and understood, through his coaching, that the route out was better than staying where I was.

    I know you weren’t soliciting compliments Stephen but my recommendation would be for the author and her partner to visit you without delay!

    • Stephen Hedger says:

      I have to say I was shocked by this piece, I once had a lady come to see me who had been in Therapy every week for 10 years.

      It was clear that she was getting all her needs met by her Therapist and so she became addicted.

      One of my very well respected clients in the public eye told me his psycologist fell asleep during his session, so he left the session with him asleep.

  2. The ethics of this has to be called into question

    • Stephen Hedger says:

      I have a thought that maybe some things are made of to be far more complicated than they really are. Those that don’t know are blinded by science.

      If I see couples past three months there has to be a really good reason.

      Most come for between 1-6 weeks.

      Appreciate you taking the time to comment Emer

  3. Psychoanalysis is a very specific form of psycho-therapy which, in my view, has one purpose and one purpose only – to make the psychotherapist very rich! People love talking about themselves. They love navel gazing. If they have someone who will sit and listen to them talk about themselves non-stop week in week out year in year out, they understandably get hooked on it. I am a profound disbeliever in this type of therapy. It is the antithesis of what you offer Stephen (I am pleased to say).

    • Stephen Hedger says:

      Thank you Belinda. In my world I believe that if you want to make money and become wealthly you do this through contribution of offering care and value to peoples lives.

      The more you give the less you have to take.

      I always give as much as I can to those that come for help and I also offer support outside of the sessions via email which I don’t charge for.