#701: Marriages are failing because of a lack of action

Couples are not seeing the danger they are in until the danger is upon them. Lack of action causes the many problems that ultimately lead a couple to divorce.

Couples who are looking to stop their problems must now take the action(s) that are going to heal the specific situation they are in. They must then take the action(s) that ensures the relationship will last.

What the couples were not aware of is they should have been taking specific actions from the first day they met.

The problem: People feel good when they first meet and they don’t question why, or how their feeling(s) were created.

So they don’t think they have to do anything, so they don’t take critical actions and life takes over. In the mean-time the relationship starts to die.

Relationships need foundations to survive and those foundations need feeding so they are kept alive and strong.

What’s really interesting is there only a few things that need to happen to ignite and keep a relationship alive.

The problem: Most people are simply not aware of them.

What most people do when problems strike is they protect themselves from their partner.

If they don’t successfully repair the relationship in a way that emotionally reconnects them they can create resentments that can stack over time. This process is dangerous for relationships.

So the first action is to value your relationship and make it a top priority before it gets worse.

The next step is to understand the truth behind why your relationship is where it is.

The truth uncovers what’s really holding the relationship back. The rebuilding of the foundations is only possible when we get to this truth.

What’s critical on this journey and is ignored by many who are professionally helping coupes through their problems.

The mission is to heal the relationship in a way that rebuilds the couples sexual attraction. I have seen many couples still having problems, because the help they have been given doesn’t help them rebuild their sexual attraction.

Unless the sexual connection is healed the couple will still struggle.

Some couples come to see me saying the help was useful because we now communicate better, but there is still something wrong.

The answer to this is simple, the couple are not yet taking the actions that creates the energy that naturally creates attraction and sexual energy.

So what can the couple do that helps him feel like the man he has always wanted and what can the couple do that helps her feel like the woman she has always wanted?

This is a critical question that has to form part of the couples strategy.

What’s important to note is this information is not naturally known by either party.

So I spend a lot of time helping couples become aware of what the other is really aware of and how they are actually translating their  words and behaviours.

The translation is usually a shock on both sides.

In essence I become a translator so when (for example) a woman speaks, he can hear through me what she really means in a language pattern he can understand. He can then become what she needs that then engages the feeling that connects her to feeling like the women she needs to feel like in a sexual relationship.

So in terms of communication the communication connection it has to be done in a way the defines their masculine and feminine roles not just we are two people understanding.

So you can understand each other, but if it’s done in a way that kills your passion identities then the you’ll struggle to get out of the friend zone and back into being lovers.

The art of rebuilding a relationship has to bring out and accept the male and female differences that then allow the creation of attraction for that couple. This is a key action that sits at the core of any couple who’s mission is to be successful for life.

Couples are coming to me to help them out of crisis, but now more and more couples are looking for help with preventing the crisis and learning how to become life long lovers.

If you are interested making 2017 your breakthrough year then take action now and find out about our divorce prevention program. 

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About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.