Couples in crisis are fixing the wrong problems!

Virtually every couple I meet has been trying to fix the wrong problem in their marriage and without knowing are damaging their connection and trust in each other with every failed attempt.

If you try to fix the wrong problem, you’ll keep failing, and if you fail for long enough, one person will either look for an out or other ways to meet their critical needs.

When helping a couple out of a crisis, the most fundamental starting point is to help each person understand the real problems they are facing.

Most couples in crisis are unaware of what is driving their disconnection, and so when they try to connect, they will find their distance becomes significantly greater.

For most couples, their disconnect has been happening for years, but when emotional pain turns to suffering that person can start to either complain or they can suffer in silence emotionally detaching from their partner.

It’s critical the couple must be on the same page with why they are struggling, or both people will be trying to fix what they think is their problem. [Read more...]