In today’s post, I’m going to share some of the hidden behavioural patterns that can feel to the individual like critical protection, but in reality, this is like a ticking time bomb ready to create the very thing they are trying to avoid.
Behavioural patterns are really designed to make our lives easier so we don’t think about them. And many patterns such as what shoe to put on first is not something we need to think about.
The dangerous pattern is the ones we create to avoid painful situations but in reality, these ill-formed outdated patterns actually create the very thing these people are trying to avoid.
Below are a few examples.
This man rolled over and let his wife take control of everything in their marriage – in his mind happy wife happy life.
Apart from going to work, he turned into a child with her.
He did it because he thought she wanted to be in control of everything so he helped her by stepping down.
He was unaware by taking this step she had to step up and become the man in the relationship and so she could never be connected to the women she wanted to be – she hated him for this.
She was left feeling she needed to get out of this marriage. [Read more...]
that anything is more important than them expect problems. What could affect them could be anything from the attractive single person in the office, to a seemingly non-threatening hobby. This is really important, no matter what, they have to feel they come first… 
Relationships and depression is a very challenging combination for any couple because depression creates the behaviors within the person that stops them giving the relationship the fuel it needs to survive.
