50 + Problems in Relationships

Below is a list of 50+ problems in relationships some of the questions/confusions I receive surrounding relationships. As I have been collecting this list I was wondering what you wanted to read about. Please either leave a comment below or send your request maybe with your own question to my contact page. Please use the title: Problems in relationships.

    1. Overcoming Insecurity in Relationships
    2. Why Low Self Esteem Causes Problems in Relationships
    3. Controlling & Abusive Relationships
    4. Financial decision making in relationships
    5. Violence in Relationships
    6. Games in relationships
    7. Happiness in Relationships
    8. Unhappiness in Relationships
    9. Self Esteem in Relationships
    10. Being overbearing & possessive in relationships
    11. Laws Of Attraction In Relationships
    12. Stress in Relationships
    13. Establishing Healthy Boundaries In Relationships
    14. Being present in relationship
    15. Playful Communication in Relationships
    16. The Forbidden Fruit in Relationships
    17. Empathy In Relationships
    18. Power control and individuality issues in relationships
    19. Why do Women cheat in Relationships
    20. Verbal Abuse in relationships
    21. Controlling Anger in Relationships
    22. Sex In Relationships
    23. Why do people cheat in relationships
    24. Cheating in Relationships
    25. Insecurity In Relationships
    26. 4 Possessive/Jealous Men in Relationships
    27. The 10 biggest mistakes men make in relationships
    28. Why Do Some Men Get Scared in Relationships
    29. White Lies In Relationships
    30. Increase Chemistry in Relationships
    31. Are You Insecure In Relationships
    32. Longevity in Relationships
    33. Cheating in Relationships
    34. Being Honest In Relationships
    35. Dishonesty in Relationships
    36. Women more likely to stray in relationships
    37. Resentment In Relationships
    38. Playing the Blame Game in Relationships
    39. Jealousy in Relationships
    40. Dealing with breakups in relationships
    41. Finding Balance in Relationships
    42. Communication in Relationships
    43. Does Age Matter in Relationships
    44. Are You Lazy In Relationships
    45. Emotional Intelligence in Relationships
    46. Strength in Relationships
    47. Abuse in Relationships
    48. Trust Issues in Relationships
    49. How to Resolve Conflicts in Your Relationships
    50. Commitment Issues in Relationships
    51. Romance Advice: Competition In Relationships
    52. Symptoms of codependent behavior in relationships

No.1 Relationship Tip For Men

Many men come in to sessions with a great head for business and more than a little lost when it comes to relationships. Some men come in hurt at how their partners have treated them, some come looking for fairness, some come looking for security, love some come wanting consistency from her.

In business the one thing that makes a business great is knowing your customer. If you know your customer, how they think what they want, and what will help them to feel in the right place to buy from you then chances are, you will win.

In relationships why not make understand your wife or girlfriend your mission too, she is far more important than any job?

No.1 Relationship Tip For Men: Don’t speak, make loving eye contact with her and just listen.

Make it your mission to understand her, listen to her without speaking. Initially ask her for whats been troubling her and then shut up and let her speak.

Your mission is to understand what you could do that would help her feel great about herself. The way she thinks and speaks is very different to you so take your time to listen to what she really means when she speaks. If she is quiet the chances are she’s not happy.

Get present with her eye-to-eye contact and get to know her again.

Most important is to take your mind off what you are getting and focus on what she needs and do this consistently.

If she gets upset love her through it, and make firm commitments, such as I will always love you, I will love you forever, I will never let you go.

She needs to know she is safe to have a relationship for life with you.

If she gets upset and calls you names don’t runaway she will see you as a boy and that means your sex life will go. If she gets upset don’t argue or defend, she will see another female within you and that mean your sex life will go.

If you fail this too many times she might go…


Why Relationships Breakdown Really?

One of the major problems I see in relationships in trouble is their refusal to give to their partner just in case they don’t get back what they need.

The translation is this: “I expect more from you than I am prepared to give, just incase I don’t get the love I need from you.”

This pulling love away to protect themselves is very common, but has zero chance of working, if keeping the relationship is the goal.

  • Where is the growth in the relationship if you both pull away, or hold back.

So the couple live in a stalemate, wanting the relationship to work, but never being brave enough to take the first step.

So what is going on in the couples minds, why would you pull love away from someone you say you love?

Conditioning is the first point. Society has conditioned us to punish when someone does us a wrong so this is automatic in most people. The sad thing is people don’t feel more love after being punished so what they have learnt growing up is now destroying their relationship.

The next thing is fear: They fear not getting what they need. If the behaviours in a relationship are driven by fear then the relationship is becoming distorted and the relationship will drift into problems.

The result is the couple starts to make the relationship all about ME!

As soon as the couple stop giving to each other unconditionally, they will start to trade with each other to get what they need from the relationship.

The fear has created a trading relationship, where “… if you do this for me, then I will do this for you!”

This model a couple adopts will radically reduce the intimacy in the relationship, or will result in it ending, neither is good.

Plus the oldest trading relationship is prostitution and I can’t imagine many couples being happy with that as a model in their relationship.

If you want to keep your relationship GIVE LOVE and don’t make it all about YOU!

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Is Your Sub Conscious Mind Sabotaging Your Life?

Have you ever considered the possibility that the world in which you live in has programmed you to behave the way you do today.

For those of you that are sceptical, ask yourself why the government has banned advertisers wanting to use subliminal advertising. The reason is it works at deep level with our minds and can change our behaviours without us knowing.

If this is possible, what have we been programmed to do and think without knowing, the simple answer is probably far more than we would like.

When you think about it you are programmed to do lots of things without thinking, or understanding why you do what you do. Some things don’t matter such as, how you always brush your teeth, or which shoe you always put on first.

BUT there are other things, important things you will have set up just like those without knowing that will be affecting your perception and behaviour in the world you live in.

How much of our own thoughts do we actually own, and how much has been given to us by our journey through life.

Put another way, what has your mind been fed? If you do not have the life you are after then you must have been fed the wrong programme to get what you don‘t want.

What’s important to learn here is, it is us that creates our life and our futures. This puts us back in control so we can start to learn what programme(s) do we need to load or feed our minds to get what we desire most.

The starting point is to not always believe your own thoughts and hype. Look at how you behave and the actions you take. This is far more telling than what you say.

A persons belief system is not fact, yet people act as if their beliefs are facts. It is this illusion that helps individuals stay stuck in lives they don’t want or create havoc in relationships they do want.

Everyone has to be open to the possibility that what they understand of their world is just one perspective and this could have all the design features to destroy the very thing they want to have or keep.

If life is not the way it should be for you then maybe now is the time to understand what is going wrong and how to change it.

If your behaviours are hurting you, you are running the wrong programme or pattern. Or put another way you are consistently behaving in a way that gives you the reverse of what you want.

Is this happening to you?

Call Stephen Hedger today!

How To Mend A Broken Heart

The steps for how to mend a broken heartGetting involved in relationships no matter what age you are can be the most amazing experience and the most traumatic.

When someone experiences a break up the whole world comes to a grinding halt.

The pain can be excruciating, you try everything to get away from the pain but nothing works, it follows you everywhere even into your dreams.

You feel there is nothing you can do… but there is…

Anyone with a broken heart will run situations, conversations or images of their partner and what happened over and over in their head.

It is this constant focus on all this information related to what has happened is what’s causing the pain.

What also happens is the person goes through a grieving process where the future they imagined now cannot exist so they feel a sense of loss.

How to stop the pain…

Turn your focus to you an image of you both together in five years time, both unhappy and arguing, you comfort eating and gaining weight he’s out drinking and chatting up easy girls – in other words create a future you don’t want and run that one over and over.

Whatever your focus on make sure it’s an image of the life you don’t want.

This way your focus will change and the pain will go faster…

If you need help call me.