Who are the couples most likely to fix their marriage?

Couples that are most likely to fix their relationship are the ones that will do whatever it takes to fix it. They are the people who want to get to the truth even if the truth is tough.

The people who fix their relationships are not looking for the quick fix. They are prepared to do what’s hard now, so the rest of their life is easy. This is in stark contrast to those couples who’s philosophy is to repeat what feels easy whilst they battle with their problems for life.

Couples that get results are curious to learn. They are open to see the world from a new perspective, their mission is not to be right at all costs. Their mission is simply to get to the truth. [Read more...]

“We Decided To Stop Our Divorce After Just One Session With Stephen…”

This lady called for help, she was 100% convinced her marriage was over. When I spoke with her I could tell she was distressed but resigned to her fate. She had filed for divorce, but felt with a small child she should have one last try to get help.

This is their experience…

We have been to see a couples’ counsellor in London and we simply gave up with her. We went round in circles resulting in us feeling worse when the sessions were over.

We both agreed this agonising process was making us worse so we stopped. I had given up with our marriage.

We came across Stephen Hedgers’ website and saw very quickly that his approach was very different so we decided to give him a call to find out more.

On the telephone I remember being so shocked, it was as if he had been reading my mind, he could understand in minutes the problems I had been experiencing and what might be going on for my partner. Stephen explained the very words my partner had been using. I was amazed and slightly speechless.

He had understood in less than ten minutes what our counsellor had missed in weeks of sessions.

In that moment I told Stephen he was booked and we were on our way as soon as he could fit us in.

During the two hour session Stephen took us though a very different understanding of our relationship. What we learnt really opened our eyes, suddenly we were able to understand each other in a way we had never considered before.

We both agreed after the session that divorce was a mistake and with what we had learnt there was hope.

My husband was wonderful, he followed Stephens’ advice to the letter and we have been getting much closer again.

We both highly recommend Stephen Hedger.

Rachael & Richard London

How to Fix My Relationship Fast

Couples can arrive at my sessions in London in very distressed states. They arrive with the view that this is their last attempt at fixing their relationship, so the pressure is on. Many couples have already filed for divorce and have put houses on the market. So when they arrive it can seem that there is little hope of helping them fix their relationship.

The couple can then leave the session in shock that through an understanding that is totally different to the one they entered the room with they start to see how their relationship can work.

So in one session the relationship takes a massive u-turn. These session are intensive and 2 hours in length, but the couple learn the core basics of what it takes to really make a relationship work, they learn to take responsibility, remove blame and judgment. They discover how to lay down their weapons, such as withholding love and controlling behaviour.

They learn how to really understand each other and understand more about each others critical needs in a totally new way.

What I have noticed as a Relationship Educator is there is a pattern that works faster than others.

If the couple both have a desire to fix the relationship, but they just don’t know how, this makes the process much faster. A couple that has one person wanting to get out and the other wanting to save the relationship can work, but takes a little longer.

So my advice seek help before one of you gets so convinced your relationship will never work. Time is not on the couples side if things start to go wrong as both people start to get more and more proof that maybe the relationship is the wrong one and they have made a mistake.

So if your relationship is in trouble do something NOW don’t wait!

Couples that fix their relationship quickly

Once the core basics of how relationships work has been communicated the turning point comes when the man discovers how he can meet his partner needs whilst fulfilling his own. I ask the man to look after her first because the greatest power sits in him to rebuild the trust and create security. She has power too but usually she is so scared she has become masculine strong and disconnected. If he can break through this she can shift really fast. Nine time out of ten all she really wants is to be loved regardless of what he thinks.

This is critical, because this is the turning point where trust gets rebuilt.

The mans job is to look after his family and his wife’s emotional needs. In most cases he has always wanted to do this, he may have thought money is how to do this, but starts to see that money is not the solution (it never was), so he has no idea how to please her so he starts to feel like a failure. He could have without knowing modeled his father, or learnt how to be a man from his mother, both mum and dad could be just as lost as he feels today.

Staying married is not the sign of a successful relationship. Successful relationships are about passion and giving not about selfish behaviours, taking and fear.

The men that embrace their role as someone who is there to serve and protect his partner and takes the steps to help her, these are the ones that turn their relationships around fast.

The ones that fail are the men that struggle to do this. These men will then go to fear.

The result can be the female gets stronger, seemingly more confident, disconnected from him, his weak behaviour helps her to need him less and so he can then become needy, want to control the relationship, using sex, money or children. She sees the need to control as a weakness because she knows he is fearful and this is not attractive.

He can then use coping strategies such as working longer hours and drinking.

All of these behaviours in him are because he is fearful. In this place the relationship is all about him and it’s really only a matter of time before she snaps, because she will.

So where you as a couple today.

  • Are you both struggling to get your relationship working, but you both really want it back?
  • Is your man bullying or controlling or shutting down? – All fear responses unattractive to females!
  • Are you a man in a relationship lost with what to do and now drink is your best friend? -
  • Is your wife always upset with you, crying, shouting or even quiet? All signs that there is a problem and she needs love!
  • Whatever your situation know that if you don’t take responsibility then you are choosing failure.

So men I call upon you to learn how to be men in your relationships, she wants a man and at the moment she wants that man to be YOU…

All expenses paid photoshoot in London

Laura contacted me with a wonderful offer for one of you to have an all expenses paid photoshoot in London. If you are interested please read what she needs and then contact her ASAP at the email address below.

Have fun…

Stephen Hedger

Glossy Weekly Fashion Magazine Wants…

I’m a journalist working for a glossy weekly fashion magazine and we’re hoping to speak to UK women in their twenties and thirties who are dating/living with/engaged or married to younger men.

We’d want to talk about why your relationship works, whether the age gap has ever made a difference and if so how you handle it.

Or if you’re not currently dating a younger guy but have done, we’d still like to hear from you. We’d also want you to come to an all expenses paid photoshoot in London.

Thanks so much! Laura

Just when it all seemed hopeless…

Thomas and his wife had good reason to assume their relationship was over. To the point where sitting and sharing the same room was a challenge for both of them. This is a typical example of how easy it is to get into trouble based on assumptions. With the right attention many couples can build trust and love back into the relationship and create a wonderful vison for the future again.

Thomas shares his thought’s…

My wife and I spent Christmas 2010 on different continents due to communication breakdown and suspicions of infidelity. Mutual resentments that had built up over time led to each of us seeking attention and reassurance from people outside our marriage. I was prepared to move out of our home after the new year, but my wife suggested that we try seeing Stephen Hedger. After browsing his website and emailing Stephen a few times, I agreed to see him for one session. [Read more...]

To all my valued subscribers

****News update****

I am delighted to announce that have been approached by a firm of Matrimonial Solicitors called IBB Solicitors in west London. They have requested that I offer help to clients that appoach them, who are not sure if divorce is right for them or not.

I have always believed that this is morally the right move for solicitors, however my requests to other law firms have been met by a reluctance due to their potential loss of business.

Very often couples in crisis get a totally distorted vision of their own relationship and each other and so they think that divorce is their only option.

With my guidance I will be helping couples see their relationships differently to free them from fear and then help them build on growth rather than destruction.

****News update****

There will also be a small interruption in your service due to scheduled maintenance to this website. Normal service will be resumed by Monday 13th September.

I want to take this opportunity to say a big thank you to all my readers.

To your success

Stephen Hedger