“My partner says they don’t love me anymore – what do I do?”

If your partner is telling you their love for you has died, there are a few very powerful things you should and shouldn’t do if your goal is to get them back into the marriage.

Loss of love doesn’t happen over night and can be a total mystery to their partner which leaves them feeling lost and powerless.

The things you should do, most people don’t do….

…and the things they shouldn’t do, they almost always do.

So the first thing you must NOT do is PANIC!

Loss of love is something the person has created within them, so it means it’s not permanent and can be undone with the right approach. [Read more...]

Should you leave your marriage?

If anyone is asking this question then clearly it’s time to start taking action. No one should be in a relationship that helps them to feel consistently bad ever!

So what should you do?

The first step is to see if it’s possible to fix what is helping you to feel bad about yourself when you are with your partner.

Many couples who work with me discover that together over time they have created a dynamic that doesn’t work without knowing, but it doesn’t mean they are not compatible. [Read more...]

She wants to be understood

No matter if you’re dating, or you have been together for years being understood is one of her biggest needs. If she feels he doesn’t understand her, this can scare her, it can help her to feel lonely, unloved, uncertain and that she doesn’t matter to him.

If it goes on for long enough she can feel numb and detached from herself and him in the relationship.

She will know she has changed and will feel he has too. [Read more...]

Relationship Master Skill FIVE of SEVEN

Yesterday we looked at how anyone can reignite the passion in their relationship and can give themselves permission to drop the accepted assumption that Relationships + Time automatically equals a loss of passion.

  • What we are getting to now is honesty in your relationship.
  • I have a question for you, is “honesty” important to you? I expect the answer is yes.
  • When is honesty important? Is it some of the time or all of the time? I expect you’ll want honesty all of the time.

Many couples I work with, and I see a lot every year all have one thing in common, they are not honest with each other and more importantly they are not honest with themselves. [Read more...]

Can I change my partner?

One of the questions I get asked from individuals wanting help for their relationship is what if my partner will not attend the couples sessions.

This is always a struggle because if the couple want to fix their problems and only one person believes in getting help then how can the help work?

The answer is with the right approach if one person changes their behaviour in a relationship the result is always their partner has no choice but to change in response.

You can try this yourself, change your behaviour at home tonight make a conscious effort to be different, maybe happier, sexier, whatever feels OK to try.

Watch how your partner reacts to you. Of course just behaving happier or sexier will not fix your relationship problems, but it will prove that you have the power to get your partner to react to you when you change your behaviours.

When you see this for yourself you will be left with the question “…what changes can I make today and every day to my own behaviour that will positively impact my relationship?”

Of course every situation is unique and so once I discover what motivates your partner and what could be causing problems then I can help you understand how to make changes in you to make life at home a happy place to live again.

You have more power than you think you have, do the test watch what happens and let us know how you get on…