Coming soon: New Video Training from the “Relationship Academy”

Cloe and I have been planning this project for a while. We really wanted to help couples across the world gain access to video training that could teach the fundamentals of relationship building in the comfort of their own home.

I have many subscribers that simply cannot get to the UK for my one-on-one consultancy. So this will help everyone understand the fundamental philosophies and skills that are helping my clients go from serious problems to understanding and relief as they rebuild their marriages.

I’m very excited about this project because it helps me to reach more people in a very powerful way.

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The Relationship Academy will answer the hot questions that couples struggle to understand the answers to.

These videos will unearth the key focus that need to be in place if you want your relationship not just to last, but to remain passionate.

If you are interested to know when this goes live please click here.

 

Coping After An Affair

Coping with an affairAffairs are probably one of the areas of relationships that have proven to impact individuals the greatest.

The impact of an affair is potentially huge on so many people and can literally rip families apart.

People feel betrayed, full of resentment, some wanting revenge, on all levels the emotional response is very high.

It is very rare for people to set out to have an affair.

Affairs can happen for many reasons, my experience in couples counselling have been that affairs have happened due to the person who had the affair feeling that they were missing something in their lives and they believe the new person will fulfil that need.

This is in most cases a costly perception because whilst a few needs did get fulfilled many other critical needs become pushed to one side. In the excitement the cost can be ignored.

This cost is then discovered too late and when the damage has been done.

To start on the road to recovery after an affair both parties must be given the room to air honest feelings, create new boundaries and share what they believe caused the affair.

What starts off a seemingly simple quest for lust, can easily unravel far deeper issues in the individuals and the relationship.

It is for this reason that before a decision about the future of the relationship is decided, understanding is a key part of that process.

  • You may decide that despite what you know the relationship has to end, but you want accelerated healing to get on with your life.
  • You made feel that you would like to try to rebuild your relationship and are willing to embark on a relationship building program.

Every situation is different and what you want is individual and personal to you.

Can the relationship survive?

Understanding what caused the affair is a first step to building a stronger relationship. Very often relationships that do survive this destructive event, and understand why it happened do go on to be more in tune with each others needs.

If an affair has affected your relationship and you would
like support please contact Stephen Hedger today

Step 1: Discover The Real Reason Why You Have Relationship Issues

Step 1 -Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger will take his clients through a process of understanding their real problems that most couples would misunderstand and confuse for a good reason to separate!

Many relationships end for all the wrong reasons

Relationship issues can be displayed in many ways and if a couple is to get to the bottom of their problems understanding why these issues have appeared is critical.

Not getting to the bottom of what’s happening in your relationship can cause even a small problem to get out of hand and confuse the couple into thinking that they are no longer compatible.

For example

A couple is having problems and the result is arguing, or punishing each other in some way.

What happens is the focus of their problems could become the constant arguments that go round in circles, or they may reject being punished and this could become the reason they decide to separate.

Their arguments could be hiding a hard to understand underlying issue, such as not feeling enough for their partner, or afraid that they would not be loved if they were totally themselves. These types of issue are very difficult for most couples to locate and there could be 1000’s of complex reasons like these presented themselves to couples all over the country.

Stephen’s roll is to help couples uncover these potentially complex issues, so the couple can start to understand and support their partner rather than create a fearful self protected reaction, that threatens the very foundations of their relationship.

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger
To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808

Step 2: What needs is the relationship not meeting?

Step 2 – Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger will help the couple understand how their critical needs are affecting their relationship their behaviours and their partners behaviours.

All individuals in relationships have needs that are critical for the relationship to be successful.

In the early days of the relationship it is very easy to meet all these needs at once.

As time goes by and the relationships settle down into daily life the needs that were being met can start to drift away. If these problems not addressed this can result in a passionless relationship where the couple love eachother, but live together as friends until one becomes unhappy and leaves the relationship.

For example

If an individual no longer feels significant in the relationship then they will go to where they can feel this way. This could be with friends, working late, hobbies or even an affair.

If one of the couple has to have financial security before they can open up to feeling of love this can damage the passionate side of the relationship.

So the order of the needs is important.

Stephen will work with the couple to discover their critical needs for the relationship to be successful and help the couple understand how these needs are driving their behaviours. These session will cover values and rules if one or both people in the couple have a destructive pattern.

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger

To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808

Step 3: Rebuilding trust in your relationship

Step 3 – Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger will help the couple learn how to build trust that’s believable and lasting

When a couple go through any kind of relationship problem the trust in each other is dented in some way.

The natural reaction when trust, the foundation of their relationship is in question is to protect yourself this could result in arguments, stonewalling, or leaving the relationship temporarily or for good.

For example

The reason for a lack of trust can take forms. It could be due to an affair or that one individual does not feel secure in the relationship for some reason. It could be trust issues could be due to money issues or a feeling of not being respected or valued. The reasons are many and varied, and can be rational or irrational emotion.

Stephens objective is to help the couple re-connect through a trust rebuilding process and sincere promises to establish a foundation to rebuild their future on.

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger

To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808

Step 4: Relationship growth & building a future together

Step 4 – Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger explains that if the relationship stops growing it dies. Building a compelling future together is critical.

When a couple first meet they have so many plans and life starts off so exciting. They put effort into the way they dress how they look, they constantly make plans together, weekends away, special nights out, presents, cards.

They then might plan to move in together, buy a house and maybe start a family.

What can happen to a relationship is that a busy life gets in the way and the relationship then has no direction, the individuals end up serving their own needs and soon as the relationship becomes all about ME! If this happens you’re really in trouble.

Stephen will help the couple get addicted to serving each others needs and get them making plans to ensure the relationship has an exciting direction.

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger

To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808

Step 5: Dealing with Relationship Problems

Step 5 – Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger will explain that no amount of relationship work will stop problems arising in the relationship. What’s important is the way you work together to ensure the relationship is never affected.

Relationship problems can take 1000’s of forms.

Problems can be from outside pressures such as work, friends, family, money problems etc. Or problems can come from misunderstandings and assumption between the couple.

On top of all these potential issues we have the ever changing states the individuals go through the different communication strategies of the individuals and the massive difference between the sexes.

Stephen will help the couple understand the critical thought processes needed to keep the relationship problems at bay the couple secure and safe no matter what happens.

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger

To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808

Step 6: Reignite the passion

Step 6 – Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger helps couple understand that making time for the intimate side of their relationship is critical to reconnect you both.

The fundamental difference between those you love (friends & family) and your partner is the intimate side to your relationship.

Couples can find that they live in a lighter version of themselves in fear of sharing their true passionate selves. When they live in this state they are never allowed to be who they really are and this can kill the soul of those people.

Connecting with the true you is a liberating experience in fact this part of you is just one of many parts that all have their roles.

Stephen will help couples feel safe to share their darker needs and how to access these different parts of their personalities and take the relationship to a whole new deeper and exciting level.

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The Relationship Building Process

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger

To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808