Relationship Test: 12 Common ways couples are disconnecting

With no educational system in place for what it takes to keep a marriage alive for life, we are left with couples really doing their best.

Sadly this is usually not enough to keep their connection and passion alive. So couples can unwittingly break their connection without meaning to leading to a build-up of negative energy that couples attach to each other.

So below I’m going to share some of the common mistakes couples are making without knowing.

THE RELATIONSHIP TEST below is designed to help couples understand how many of these points below are in your marriage so you can start to open up communication at home? [Read more...]

Relationship Test – 6 Questions

Complete the relationship test below to discover why your relationship may not be as good as it could be.

If you have any questions about this test then please contact Stephen Hedger Relationship Coach click here

How does your relationship measure up?

Take a few moments to score your relationship below now!

Score yourself from 1-10
1 = never fulfilled  -  10 = totally fulfilled

These questions are about how you feel about what you receive from your partner and if your core needs are being met. If you are unhappy this will start to explain why and in what areas.

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Question 1

How secure does your partner help you to feel in your relationship?

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Question 2

Does you partner help you to feel excited about your relationship and future together?

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Question 3

Do you feel that you are the most important part of your partners life?

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Question 4

How much love do you feel you receive from your partner?

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Question 5

Do you feel that your partner is helping to grow your relationship to keep it alive?

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Question 6

Does your partner give to you and asks for nothing in return?

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Your scores

Remember these scores are from your own perspective and are therefore up for discussion with your partner, but what you feel is important and can fuel decisions. So find out where you really are in your relationship before you start pressing destruct buttons.

***The scores below are meant to be a guide only, so if you are unsure seek professional help.***

If your scores were 48-60 – Then you are in great shape. Keep an eye on those scores that were lower and ensure that you keep doing more of what is clearly working and do your best to get 10′s all round.

If your scores were 30 – 47 – Then your critical relationship needs are not being met and so this may be causing you to have problems. Look at the areas that are the lowest and see if together you can start to change the behaviours that are causing these problems.

If your scores were below 30 – Then you might be thinking about the chances of you both surviving. You are probably spending more and more time apart. If you are in this place all is never lost and with the right help you can discover the passion you once had for each other.

What did you discover?

Successful relationships can only happen when the core needs of both people in the relationship are being met. The most successful relationships work when the scores to all these questions are high.

This will give you a good snap shot of where your relationship is today and the areas which need help.

If you have scored your partner low, find out why you feel this way and how you can work together to fix this problem you are now both aware of .

There’s more

You can do the test again yourself and mark how you think your partner would score you. Then let them take the test and see how your answers compare.

Please feel free share what have discovered below.