Marriage Tip Five: Understand Why You Are Together?

May 6, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Will a couple survive if they don’t share a reason to be together? Couples who plan their journey though life and work as a team towards those goals are far more likely to want to stay together because they have a real purpose.

Creating that purpose helps to build a strong lasting intimate connection.

Most couples vision starts with attracting each other, moving in, getting engaged, getting married and having children. The couple excited about life can race through these goals within a few years. [Read more...]

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Marriage Tip Two: Are You Enough For Your Partner?

April 1, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

If a person has a life without a planned direction or purpose then what should that person should expect from their life?

What would happen to the couple without direction or life purpose, they get married and don’t plan their journey through life? What should they expect from their life together?

The secret to success in this world is simple, you have to work out where you can add value and plan to add lots of value to whatever is important to you. [Read more...]

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Marriage Tip One: Be Aware That Your Mind Will Grow Whatever You Feed It?

March 25, 2013 By Stephen Hedger 1 Comment

Whatever you feed your mind will come true. You will become what you think most about. This law is universal and in relationships it’s very obvious to see.

Follow the words below and see how you can
relate this to your life and relationship.

When a couple first meets and they share that powerful magnetic attraction for each other. What they are going to be focused on is what’s so great about their new lover.

They can daydream about all the great qualities their new lover has, they feel excited and full of anticipation, the world looks brighter and more exciting and it’s not long before they run around telling their family and friends how amazing their new lover is. [Read more...]

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NEW “FREE Marriage Tips”

March 18, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Over the next few weeks I will be sharing important information that has helped many marriages come back from the edge of divorce. So please email your friends share this page and next week we will get started.

Why is this information important?

There is no formal education open to the public on how to build successful relationships. This has proved to be devastating for couples who marry expecting their love to last.

They don’t know how their love was created. So when the inevitable problems arise they don’t know how to grow closer through their problems so they pull love away to protect themselves. It’s not long before the couple have lost the focus that created their passion and they are now focused on what’s wrong and their problems.

This is disaster for any relationship. [Read more...]

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How to stop your marriage from dying

March 10, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Today I’m going share an insight that may help many of you avoid a pitfall I see on a regular basis and get many letters about.

This is widespread and is killing relationships / marriages and destroying families.

In essence some of the information you have grown up with, is like poison for your relationship and is devastating for your children and their relationships, because they are learning from you.

I am going to share with you step-by-step what’s been killing relationships across the country and why.

Please follow this example [Read more...]

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Life Secrets: Relationships, Money, Health

March 4, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

If you knew there were simple steps to becoming successful in the areas of life that are important to you wouldn’t you want to know what those steps were?

Within every person that comes for help I am looking for ways in which I can help them discover their strengths. Powerful parts of themselves they have hidden without knowing.

I believe there is a key to everyones inner strength something that will create the desire within them to take action and to claim the life that will equal fulfillment for them.

We all have strengths and yet months or years of battling with life, careers, relationships, children and even ourselves can wear us down.   [Read more...]

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Are You An Attractive Partner To Be With?

March 1, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Being attractive to your partner is critical, but being attractive is less about what you look like and more about how you behave and treat your partner. I have created over 40 relationship musts for couples that want a passionate relationship that lasts. Below is a sample 15 of those musts .

    1. Relationships are created they don’t just happen.
    2. Relationship that focus on contribution (giving) creates the deepest bond as time passes.
    3. Never make your relationship about you… [Read more...]
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I do give but I get nothing back?

February 7, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

You are impossible...

When a person feels that they put lots of effort into their relationship and they end up getting very little to nothing back, this can and will cause pain in their relationship.

Many couples come into sessions with this exact complaint.

What’s even more frustrating is when one person does feel they are giving, but their partner communicates,

“What do you give me? I get nothing” or “I know you love me but I don’t feel it”

Many couples are in this space and there is a simple reason behind it. [Read more...]

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What is most important to your partner?

January 28, 2013 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Am I imporrtant to you?

I just don't feel that you care about me?

Is it you?

If anyone in a relationship / marriage feels that someone or something is more important to their partner than they are – there will be trouble.

What’s important to understand it’s doesn’t have to be the attractive female in the office who is just “a friend” or the man down the gym “giving her advice” that can cause problems for relationships. [Read more...]

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Understanding men in relationships

July 23, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

What is a man designed to do? He is designed to be physically strong make firm decisions, breakthrough challenges and take action to solve or fix problems.

When he is in this space he feels great about himself and ironically this is what many women want their men to be like.

You see many women are surprised in my couples session when we discuss how our needs are met.

Women in relationship crisis will have needs missing. They feel the trust has gone and they usually feel less certain about their future. [Read more...]

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The internal fight within us breaks relationships we actually want to keep

July 19, 2012 By Stephen Hedger 1 Comment

I agree that many of you may find some of what I teach to build successful relationships goes against the grain of what you have believed and have been taught historically.

Putting your partner first, not making them wrong, giving love unconditionally can seem impossible but….

…is the challenge you face to protect what you have always done, or is it to discover new ways grow the passion back into your relationship? [Read more...]

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Our relationship is terrible because my partner changed

July 14, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

One of the most disempowering places to be in a relationship is thinking you have no control over what happens when things go wrong.

You know you are a good person, so why is your partner behaving so badly? Why can’t they change back to what it was like when you first met?

Why can’t they understand you, why do they want to hurt you so much?

Many people lose hope because they can’t see a way forward. The key to this problem is to understand what you can control, the one thing you can effectively control is you. [Read more...]

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ME ME ME – BLAME BLAME BLAME

July 11, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

As soon as the relationship becomes all about “ME” the relationship is over. As soon as the person is pointing the finger at their partner blaming them for all the problems because of what they are not getting, it’s all over. You may still be together in a house, but you are migrating towards problems.

  • FACT- If a relationship is not growing it’s dying.

You see a relationship is about ‘giving’ not ‘taking’ when a couple consistently gives to each other in the way they need the relationship will grow. If they constantly take naturally the relationship will become empty and so dies. [Read more...]

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Compatibility In A Relationship

June 21, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

This is a question that I get asked almost every day… “are we compatible?” When relationships go wrong it’s the most obvious question. People worry “Maybe the relationship happened too fast, maybe we had children too quickly?”

It’s true that many people rush into relationships without thought.

Most people go into relationships based on a combination of key factors such as it was easy geographically i.e we worked together or live in the same town. [Read more...]

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Relationships don’t just happen they are created…

June 17, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Think about this, how much attention time and effort do people spend on dating each other, making the right impression, having fun, doing special things together?

Now think about this, when people get divorced how much time effort and money is focused on getting divorced, lawyers, planning what they want.

Now look at when the couple are married how much time, effort and money do they focus on creating the relationship they really want? That’s right most people spend next to no time on feeding the relationship what it really needs and are shocked when it starts to go wrong. [Read more...]

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It’s time to invest in you…

June 13, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

As we grow from children into adults we are conditioned that if we work hard get a good education we’ll have the opportunity to create the lives we want.

So we put 1000’s of hours into developing our professional skills in our quest to get the lives we want.

So my question is this if education is so critical, why do we expect our relationships to happen naturally with no education?

How is it even possible for two people to meet have no relationship building skills and expect their relationship to last? [Read more...]

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How to make him want you back

June 12, 2012 By Stephen Hedger 2 Comments

If you want him to want you back, then you have to understand why you’re not together today. What is it that helped him feel that you were not right for each other?

The number one reason is going to be that he didn’t feel good about himself when he was with you.

The question is why did he leave you?

Most men leave relationships because they don’t feel they can be successful with their partners in the way they want. [Read more...]

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Enough is Enough!

June 7, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

Could today be the day when you say, Enough Is Enough! That day happened to me. I was sat in a marketing  job, bored of trying to help companies sell stuff to people who were really not interested in buying them.

As I day dreamed of a different life, my thoughts usually went to those people who really make a difference in society people like firefighters, nurses, surgeons, soldiers and police officers. For me they are wonderful they really do make an amazing difference and most are so under appreciated. [Read more...]

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Words are cheap! Show me you mean what you say!

May 31, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

The real power in any successful relationship is in the power of action. There is little point two people saying they love each other and only one person taking the actions which equal love to their partner.

It is critical to find out with your relationships what actions you can take that will help you be successful with them consistently.

Many individuals in a relationship dismiss the critical needs of their partner because they don’t understand them.

This approach causes problems because not only do the couple operate differently as individuals they also experience the world differently based on gender.

When one person in the relationship can only experience the world from their own perspective their partner quickly feels they have little empathy for their needs. [Read more...]

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The Biggest Myth That Could Easily Damage Your Relationship

May 30, 2012 By Stephen Hedger Leave a Comment

This post is about a relationship myth that we all hear, one which most people will agree with, but it’s one that has tragic consequences if believed to be true.

The Myth: “Passion Dies As Time Passes”

Why is it so many people believe this is true. The answer is because they all experience it. Ask anyone if this is normal most people would agree it is.

The reason it is so dangerous for couples and their relationships is because it’s not strictly true, but if accepted, couples will believe this is normal and accept the death of that part of their relationship.

Loss of intimacy is one of the top reasons for divorce so understanding how to keep the passion alive is critical. [Read more...]

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