Now discover why couples keep failing to fix their problems

The keys to keeping a marriage successful is understanding the real problems in your marriage and focusing on the steps most likely to fix those problems.

I am constantly at the sharp end of all manner of marital challenges and I can tell you that for most couples the problems they come to the sessions with are not the problems I have to fix.

So a couple might come with detachment problems, loss of love, sexual disconnection, frequent conflict, money problems, controlling behaviours, communication issues to name a few.

The couple will feel these specific challenges are their problems and could have tried to fix them, most will be unsuccessful.  [Read more...]

Major Cause of Marriage Problems: Loss of your sex life

One of the major causes of marriage problems is sexual disconnection. Couples that are struggling to connect outside of the bedroom will undoubtedly have trouble connecting within it.

Both male and female have the ability to disconnect if they feel the marriage is not working for them.

For those thinking that you have a sexual problem please be mindful that your sex life, or lack of it, is likely to be due to problems in your current dynamic combined with your history together.

One gentlemen came to me so shocked that his partner had embarked on a string of one night stands. He told me that because they had not had sex for years he was convinced she just wasn’t interested in sex. We are all sexual creatures [Read more...]

Does your partner want a divorce and you want to save your marriage?

If your partner wants a divorce and you don’t agree it’s the right solution to your problems it’s critical to understand what has brought them to this point.

In terms of behaviour and communication the following will be impacting them:

  • They are likely to communicate a loss of feelings, such as a loss of love.
  • They will have lost trust in their future happiness in the relationship.
  • They will have lost respect for their partner.
  • They will have shifted their actions to be all focused on themselves.
  • You may feel that you are living with a totally different person.

You may notice a total change in their behaviours i.e. wanting to spend more time with their friends, work, children or interests.

All their behaviours will be designed to move them away from their pain and towards what will give them small bites of pleasure.

It’s likely that a person wanting a divorce will create a story that will justify why leaving the relationship is a good idea. [Read more...]

Fix your relationship with one small easy change that anyone can do…

What if one small change could make all the difference to your marriage and could save it from months or years of problems.

What if there is one small change we could all make to keep our relationships safe. Safe from misunderstandings, safe from no win arguments, safe from the ups and downs that life throws at us.

What if this one small change could break the patterns of destructions many couples have lived with for so long.

This small change that everyone can make is simply to be the best they can be in their relationship, or more importantly how to learn to be the best they can be. This is really important to understand… [Read more...]

How are successful relationships created?

To become successful at anything in life the key is to master it. To be better at sport we have to practice and practice, to be great at our jobs we have to study and get experience and prove our worth. The more we master our interests the better we become at them.

We all understand this concept, it gets drummed into us from our schools and from our parents.

One of my mentors spoke constantly about studying all aspects of life that were most interesting to me. He taught me to study the things we didn’t study in school, yet to me are the keys to life.

So I decided to study careers, wealth and relationships. I knew if any one of those areas was not working, my life would feel off balance. [Read more...]

I Think My Marriage Is Over?

Is your marriage over, have you had enough? Maybe you partner has expressed a need to leave. No matter what side of this fence you are on it’s a very stressful place to be.

Many people with marriage troubles tell me they think they married the wrong person.

Some couples love each other, but simply struggle to get along together suffering as their problems keep coming back.

Some people feel rejected, unloved and alone. Some are full of resentment so much so they now feel detached from their partner questioning their love. [Read more...]

Marriage reconciliation: Can a marriage with years of problems be saved?

Marriage Reconciliation is it possible really?  Well those that have been reading my posts for a while now will know my answer. Why? Because I see it every day in my practice.

BUT today I’m going to share with you how it’s actually possible, why do my clients create a shift that changes their marriage from a total belief it’s NOT possible to solve their marriage problems to creating a connected passion that’s deeper than they have ever experienced. [Read more...]

Marriage Crisis Help: What do we do?

If your marriage is in crisis this means that one of you is starting to give up because they feel they have enough proof the relationship is wrong for them.

The crisis is usually caused by one person saying they have had enough and they are thinking of leaving because they are so unhappy.

This can sound pretty final. If you want to save your marriage, there are very easy and very powerful steps you can take to find out if you are really compatible. [Read more...]

How To Save Your Marriage Alone!

If you want your marriage to work and your partner won’t seek help what do you do? This post is about how to save your marriage alone.

How you can make a difference in your relationship even if your partner doesn’t want to try?

The starting point is this: You have to know it is possible to save your marriage on your own, but you’re going to have to make some changes in the way you listen, understand your partner and how you behave. [Read more...]

Marriage Help For Couples With Marriage Problems

If you’re having marriage problems and you’re struggling to solve it, your going to need marriage help before the problem gets too serious. Most couples in trouble have usually experienced problems that keep coming back and this is because of one key problem…

You are both doing something that’s potentially destructive without knowing.

So if you’re both not aware of how you’re contributing to the marriage negatively then this means the foundations of the marriage are compromised. [Read more...]