What if you knew your relationship problems were not your real problems?

So lets look at Jim he has had two serious relationships and both those women cheated on him and now Jim is focused on whether he can ever trust a woman again.

I think most of us would sympathise with Jims situation, but what is the real problem? Trust does seem a logical place to start and overcome.

Jim tries to have another relationship, but after the initial euphoria his mind has automatically gone to protecting him and focuses him on his past problems and lack of success with women.

This focus causes problems for Jim and his new partner, he is naturally focused on protecting himself and she starts to feel untrusted, not good for her.

Neither Jim or his new partner feel good and the relationship starts to suffer. Both Jim and his new partner are focused on his trust problem and trying to solve it.

It won’t be long before real problems start, because Jim doesn’t actually have trust issues.

Jims real problem is he doesn’t know how to consciously take actions that will help her to feel amazing about herself when she is with him.

Jim needs to learn how women work and what specifically helps them to be happy. This will give Jim confidence to love her in the way she needs.

So Jims fears were in his lack of ability to become the man he has always wanted to be for the woman he loves.

The reason couples are successful through my help is because they discover their real problems quickly this is why some couples only need one session with me.

Assume your problems are not your real problems, or you could start you on a journey that will build proof your relationship is doomed and it won’t be true at all.

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About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.