What’s killing the passion in so many marriages?

What you are about to read is so important to understand if you want an intimate relationship for life. Many couples have a very poor sexual connection but don’t know why. What happens for many is they kill their passion but still keep a certain level of connection alive.

A passionate connection has very specific foundations for couples to stay alive and passionate. What most couples are doing is killing their passion foundations without knowing.

So please take note

It’s impossible to keep love and passion alive whilst a person has to protect themselves emotionally from their partner so below are some of the actions that create those negative feelings and slowly kill the relationship. 

  • Being your partners’ judge
  • Making your partner wrong
  • Making assumptions about your partner and who they are
  • Being critical of them
  • Making your partner responsible for what you feel
  • Withdrawing from your partner
  • Mind-reading what your partner thinks

These actions above will all have an extremely negative impact on men and women that if practice for long enough can kill the relationships natural passion and love.

Men and women are very different in many ways. What’s important is to understand is how not understanding those differences can kill the relationship.

Men and women don’t understand how to really hear what the other is saying. They hear the individual words and think they understand, but they simply don’t understand the deeper meanings behind them.

Men and women have very different expectations of what a marriage should be like and what is important to the other. They both want happiness, but their journey to it is completely different.

Men and women need very different processes to enjoy a lifelong sexual connection if you don’t understand it you won’t have it.

Your partner is not like you at all.

Men can’t understand why women just can’t let go of past problems. On the whole, men are very good at letting past problem go (there are of course exception to this rule) women are naturally not good at this, but there is a very good reason.

When a woman is aggressive what is really going on. Men translate this behaviour as negative and attacking. Negative and attacking is his translation but – he’s not right – this behaviour in most women is about something very different.

All men want (if he loves her) is to please her – most women won’t feel pleased because he doesn’t know how to please her and she doesn’t know how to help him understand what she needs.

The real key to lasting passion really understanding what is happening in your marriage. People are so busy running outdated negative patterns to protect themselves from being hurt they are missing the real truth in their relationship.

So if you want your marriage to thrive and experience true passion you must free your partner to be themselves and help them connect to the energy within them that helps them see you as attractive again.

You can’t control love and passion it only lives and grows when it’s free.

About Stephen Hedger

International relationship expert Stephen Hedger's philosophy on relationship problems is this: Couples fail to understand their relationships because they are too focused on their problems and so they totally miss what created them. Stephen's approach is a refreshing and enlightening journey that helps couples uncover their truth. His strategies uncover the knowledge that all couples need to create a successful and lasting passionate connection. If you are in crisis and you need help, book an initial consultation today to get your life back on track.