What will an NLP coach do for me?

Coaching is all about creating change and making changes in the clients life. The  job of a coach is to discover how the client can be moved towards a more fulfilling life by discovering the clients internal map of his or her world that they live in.

The coach will learn how the client reacts to the world? What sequence of events happen internally for the client to create either successes or blocks to success?

The job of a coach is to create freedom for the client so they can congruently live their dream life without fear.

A coaches job is also to ensure that the link between the clients dream life and reality is practical with a well formed plan.

The coach will start to point out to the client the possibilities of choice and freedom that are open to the client.

These small changes in direction have always been there for the client, but through habit and habitual thinking, deviation off the current path has held no good reason despite the incongruent feelings the client may have had.

Who might come for coaching and why? Coaching is usually sought when a cure of some kind is needed or the thought of carrying on is too painful.

On the whole most people will not seek change unless it is consciously affecting their lives or those they love.

People rarely seek prevention, but they will seek cures…

The problem here is people don’t know, what they don’t know. They are not at fault for failing to discover that just maybe their internal map of the world is only a fraction of the size of the individuals internal map who have achieved what they want.

When is the right time to discover what you don’t know you are missing out on? Most people are too scared to find out because this could mean focusing on a dream and dreams don’t come true.

The sad thing is for many they are right because if you focus on not achieving something you will succeed.

A good coach will help you focus on achievable goals. There maybe 10 or 20 steps to your big goal, but each step is a step closer.

And as long as what you want is physically possible and you have passion for your own life then almost anything is possible and there is a plan for it.

Believe in yourself and fearlessly take giants steps. Only when you decide to do this will the possibility of massive success be yours.

NLP Communication Tips – Modal Operators

NLP is one of the most amazing tools for understanding language patterns and the meanings behind those spoken words.

NLP Coaches and Therapists are able to gather a staggering amount of information through observations and asking questions designed to help clients achieve their goals .

Here is an examples that you can try out yourself.

The word “should“…

  • You should do XYZ
  • You should see XYZ
  • You should go to XYZ

The word “should” is one you may have heard from your parents or family members, this is their opinion for an action that they want you to take.

Maybe you don’t agree and don’t think that you should do anything. The problem with challenging this word is you may get into conflict if you don‘t do it, or ask them why you should.

So if you get asked this question, a great answer is… “What would happen if I didn’t…”

This would uncover the intention behind their opinion and would open a discussion to diffuse any misunderstandings.

Also many people talk to themselves this way, I should go to the gym, I should set-up that business. If this sounds like you, then you’ll need to discover why this block is present and what’s the intention behind your use of the word “should”.

Give it a try and see how you get on…