Relationship Counselling Aylesbury

Are you searching for information on Relationship Counselling for your relationship problems in Aylesbury?

Stephen Hedger has been a relationship coach for the past 10 plus years helping couples with a full range of common and not so common problems.

Your session will begin with an assessment of where you think you both are. This is usually very different to where you really are as your problems are likely to feel worse because you’re living in your problems.

Please note: If your partner is not interested in coming don‘t worry. When you understanding your issues you will learn how to change your behaviours and this will result in them changing theirs without knowing.

The focus of your session will be on exploring your critical needs in the context of your relationship, so we can start to understand what’s been missing for you and your partner.

If your critical needs are missing then you will have problems as you both fight to get them.

This can create a state of confusion in both of you, this causes fear for your future and what usually comes out is anger.

  • You will learn about how the sexes communicate, speak and listen in totally different ways
  • You will learn how to understand arguments
  • You will discover how to mend the trust that’s been lost through confusion
  • You will learn exactly how to meet you partners needs to secure your future together

No matter where you both are step-by-step changes are possible once you commit to making a change.

I’ll look forward to helping you.

Kind regards

Stephen Hedger

Relationship Coach

Marriage Counselling London

Are you looking for marriage counselling for your relationship problems in London?

Stephen Hedger has been a relationship coach for the past 10 years helping couples with a full range of common and not so common problems.

Your session will begin with an assessment of where you think you both are. This is usually very different to where you really are as your problems are likely to feel worse because you’re living in your problems.

Please note: If your partner is not interested in coming don‘t worry. When you understanding your issues you will learn how to change your behaviours and this will result in them changing theirs without knowing.

The focus of your session will be on exploring your critical needs in the context of your relationship, so we can start to understand what’s been missing for you and your partner.

If your critical needs are missing then you will have problems as you both fight to get them.

This can create a state of confusion in both of you, this causes fear for your future and what usually comes out is anger.

  • You will learn about how the sexes communicate, speak and listen in totally different ways
  • You will learn how to understand arguments
  • You will discover how to mend the trust that’s been lost through confusion
  • You will learn exactly how to meet you partners needs to secure your future together

No matter where you both are step-by-step changes are possible once you commit to making a change.

I’ll look forward to helping you.

Kind regards

Stephen Hedger

Relationship Coach

Coaching v Therapy

One question that keep coming up is what is the difference between coaching, therapy and counselling?

One of the reasons I personally enjoy coaching so much and decided to embark on my own journey of self discovery was after seeing my own coach many years ago. It was the profoundly positive affect I felt that was so forward thinking and really helped me feel good about myself again.

I had years before experienced counselling and therapist and they helped me to focus on all that was wrong in my life and so I left each session feeling worse, and with little guidance to feel better.

Therapists and counsellors usually look back over someone’s life to discover why they are experiencing problems today.

There are two key reasons why I don’t personally like this approach, one is because the client gets to relive all their painful memories. When they do this they focus on pain and so they start to see and experience more and more problems. This puts clients into learnt unresourceful states designed to get the reverse of what they want.

The second reason I dislike this approach is because those that do come to me after years in therapy find that changing is a tough road for them, this is because they are conditioned to link everything that happens back past experiences. What this does is to give the client even more reasons/excuses why they cannot achieve their goals.

Coaching is forward thinking and is focused on obtaining specific goals. If blocks from the past do occur then deep change work will be used to change the perception of a memory or a belief to free the individual to keep moving forward without all the focus on painful experiences.