NLP Communication Tips – Modal Operators

NLP is one of the most amazing tools for understanding language patterns and the meanings behind those spoken words.

NLP Coaches and Therapists are able to gather a staggering amount of information through observations and asking questions designed to help clients achieve their goals .

Here is an examples that you can try out yourself.

The word “should“…

  • You should do XYZ
  • You should see XYZ
  • You should go to XYZ

The word “should” is one you may have heard from your parents or family members, this is their opinion for an action that they want you to take.

Maybe you don’t agree and don’t think that you should do anything. The problem with challenging this word is you may get into conflict if you don‘t do it, or ask them why you should.

So if you get asked this question, a great answer is… “What would happen if I didn’t…”

This would uncover the intention behind their opinion and would open a discussion to diffuse any misunderstandings.

Also many people talk to themselves this way, I should go to the gym, I should set-up that business. If this sounds like you, then you’ll need to discover why this block is present and what’s the intention behind your use of the word “should”.

Give it a try and see how you get on…