Dealing with your future relationship problems

Step 5 – Relationship Rebuilding Process

Stephen Hedger will explain that no amount of relationship work will stop problems arising in the relationship. What’s important is the way you work together to ensure the relationship is never affected.

Relationship problems can take 1000’s of forms.

Problems can be from outside pressures such as work, friends, family, money problems etc. Or problems can come from misunderstandings and assumption between the couple.

On top of all these potential issues we have the ever changing states the individuals go through the different communication strategies of the individuals and the massive difference between the sexes.

Stephen will help the couple understand the critical thought processes needed to keep the relationship problems at bay the couple secure and safe no matter what happens.

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The Relationship Building Process

Building lasting relationships with Stephen Hedger
To Make An Appointment Call: 0845 519 4808

How To Fix My relationship

Are you unhappy with your relationship & need a relationship counsellor, relationship coach or therapist to help you?

Do you love your partner, but something has changed and you’re now fearful of your future together.

It could be because of an affair, disconnection, boredom, constant arguments, lack of passion, or maybe it’s something else helping you to feel empty inside.

Have you tried and tried to make things work, but now your starting to think that splitting up is now the only option?

Before you or your partner press the Destruct Button on your relationship and collapse the world as you know it, take a moment to consider these words from Stephen Hedger Relationship Expert.

“If you focus on your problems,
all you will discover is more problems”

Dear Friend

If you are experiencing relationship problems right now I know through my own fair share of past painful experiences as a young man and through the many hundreds of people I have worked with, how painful, debilitating, and stressful these times can be.

relationship counselorI also want to congratulate you on your inner strength in deciding to discover more about yourself and your relationship despite the stress you are under.

Whatever you are feeling or experiencing right now I have a mountain of information that will help you to discover the triggers to get your relationship not only back on track, but to a new passionate level.

I expect you are feeling pretty raw right now and probably skeptical that anyone could help you make a difference.

If you could give me a few minutes of your time this could be just be that moment that changes everything for you.

Working with me will help you uncover how to use the differences in our sexes to your advantage rather than a place to fight.

  • A different species

    The first thing you will learn is that men and women are almost a totally different species trying to live together as if they are the same. This why couples experience so many problems, as today’s social conditioning is fighting with the 2 million year old instincts of the different genders and the roles they were designed for.

Men are not emotionless hairy women
& women are not over emotional beautiful men

  • The rules that drive us

    Combine this with the standards or values given to us by our parents and the volume of destructive rules we may have attached to those values without knowing.

  • Subjective meanings

    Plus the massive volume of information about relationships we hold and the subjective meanings we all attach to those words, feelings, and experiences you can forgive yourself for having a struggle with any intimate relationship. You can be sure on one thing… You are not alone!

NEXT! – Effective Communication

You will discover how to communicate your needs and desires so you partner understands them. Men and women communicate and listen in totally different ways, unless the differences are understood, problems are guaranteed. It’s likely this is happening to you right now, look at these examples…

  • Prove to me you love me!

    Men will discover that when his woman is screaming at him and blaming him for everything wrong in her life, she is not crazy and he must never run away taking her words literally, what she is really asking for is for him to prove he loves her and that he will be with her for ever.

  • Learn how to see her anger as passion!

    When men can see the passion in her words and give her what she needs whilst removing the literal meanings then this is a time to see what a truly amazing woman he has.

  • She just wants to know you care

    A man will discover that she does not always want him to fix her life she just wants him to show he cares. A woman will discover that men can only take so much communication without there being something for him to fix or the conversation having no point in his mind.

These are just a fraction of the differences that can happen in relationships.

NEXT!Building Solid Trust

How to regain and then strengthen the trust in your relationship. No matter what reason trust issues are present you will discover the root cause and how to fix it, even if your relationship is the victim of an affair.

Once the trust and heart felt understanding has been communicated on both sides then you can start to build your love again.

NEXT! How to ignite your passion

Once you both can start to see that you were missing the underlying message your partner was giving you and that you can now trust them to look after your needs, only now you are in a position to get to know each other at a more deeper level than before.

NEXT! You can start to build your common goals and plan your adventure together

Discover the many amazing personalities within your partner, and learn how to bring out the ones in yourself to create any mood you wish just purely by changing your focus.

As you start to understand more about yourself and your relationship, any fears you used to have will start to fade away. You will be left with an internal fearless energy giving you freedom to live a secure and yet passionate life together.

Now you have a small insight into what you will discover on this journey with me.

I hope that even though physically nothing has changed for you yet, you may start to see that there maybe much about yourself and your relationship which needs to be uncovered before you can confidently decide this is not the relationship for you.

“If a relationship stops growing it dies”

Working with Stephen Hedger will fast track you through the relationship maze avoiding years of trial and error and many failed relationships only to discover the same destructive patterns emerging each time.

Learn how to save and then grow your relationship today

If you would like more information or would like to make an appointment either in London W1 or in Aylesbury Buckinghamshire please call now on 0845 519 4808

The golden rule for a successful relationship?

What feelings is your partner attaching to you
without you knowing?

No matter whether you’re dating, married, or trying to save your relationship there is one rule that you must know.

When you help someone to feel great about themselves when they are in your company, they will attach all their great feelings to time spent with you.

But beware, the reverse is also true and you may not know it’s happening.

Become an anchor for happiness

Help your partner to feel great about themselvess when they are with you today, this is the single best action you can take for relationship success. All of their senses will tune into your voice, the way you look, the way you smell and where they were when they felt great, these are triggers being created for moments in time, this is what we call an anchor.

When a past memory is created, it can be remembered through a trigger such as a sound, a sight or a smell that is the same or similar to that past experience.

This anchoring process is at play when people are dating. It is one of the reason the couple can’t get enough of each other. They both get addicted to their own feelings and then crave more of each other.

Longer term successful relationships still need those anchors to survive.

Whilst our relationship values change as the relationship matures. Values like long term security become one of the anchors that help us all to feel good about ourselves in our relationships.

We still need to feel confident that our partners care enough to want us to feel great and that the relationship is not being held together by just one person.

For example a woman may feel that she is being taken for granted. So now she’s attaching bad feeling to the man. She may take all that built up anger out on him over something small which to him seems an emotional over reaction.

Now both people in this relationship are starting to attach bad feelings to each other.

She is at fault for assuming he is a mind reader and knows what she is feeling. He is at fault for assuming he knows what’s caused her to become upset. Confused they both attach bad feelings to each other.

It’s the little things

Of course these little things will not break the relationship, but over time they can build-up, and resentment can become a very powerful emotion that can override the value of security.

When your partner attaches a lack of security to you then the relationship is in real trouble.

Relationships that are in trouble have helped either one or both people to experience bad feelings and attached those feeling to their partners, avoid this today.

Discover how you can help your partner to feel great about themselves in your company and take action now! Your relationships are valuable so look after them.

Re-ignite those good anchors. One great idea is to re-create a time when you both felt great such as a first date or a special restaurant. Take yourselves back in time and remember all the reason why you got together in the beginning.

Try it and let me know how you get on in your comments section below.

Building trust in a relationship

When trust issues arise the foundations of the relationship becomes unstable and regrettable emotionally driven decisions can take over.

From lies to affairs from lack of understanding to lack of appreciation, one thing is clear, being in a relationship with trust as an issue is a big painful problem.

You have to stop and understand one thing! If you don’t have trust in your relationship you don’t have a relationship that will last.

When the trust goes the security goes. When the security goes one or both parties will seek security elsewhere. This could mean friends, family, wanting to be on their own, or maybe an affair.

When you lose security you lose respect for your partner and when that goes resentment sets in as you live each day in fear of what your future will hold for you.

Both of you need to understand the cost of what has been created between you. From here you can start from a point of agreement.

  • “That the relationship has a problem!

When you get to this point you can then together agree on which direction you want to go.

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