Is your marriage in crisis due to an affair? Are you looking for powerful tools and step-by-step help that genuinely works. Help that’s an effective alternative to traditional marriage counselling?

• Long-term emotional trauma: The betrayal cuts deep, leaving lasting wounds of trust issues, low self-worth, and difficulty forming safe connections in future relationships.

• Impact on children: Children often absorb the emotional chaos, leading to anxiety, confusion, divided loyalties, and long-term trust issues in their own relationships.

• Financial strain: Divorce often leads to legal fees, asset division, and lifestyle changes that can drain savings and disrupt long-term financial plans.

• Loss of family unity: What once felt like a secure home is split, and even with the best intentions, co-parenting can’t replicate the emotional safety of a united household.

• Lingering regret and “what ifs”: Many live with the haunting thought that the marriage could have been saved — if only they had understood what was really going wrong beneath the surface.

For two decades, I’ve guided over a thousand individuals and couples through one of the most challenging times in their lives.

Through a tailor-made Affair Recovery Program, I've helped them gain the clarity, stability, and the emotional strength they needed, so they can make a safe, informed decision for themselves and their family’s future.

The question: If you were to stay together, would you both be able to create a dynamic that builds a future of connected happiness that will also give your children an effective relationship model to follow that would keep them safe?

The program is designed to help the couple learn what they are capable of achieving with the right help.

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"Stephen has worked wonders on our long-term marriage, which was on the rocks. After 25 years, we are stronger than ever, and we feel like newlyweds again. We’ve learned so much about ourselves, each other, and how to work together as a team."

CEO - Global Company

When an affair is discovered, the emotional fallout is overwhelming but there is a structured way to make sense of the chaos. 

• The first step is "understanding the why" behind the affair. This doesn’t justify the betrayal, but it’s vital to uncover the emotional and relational patterns that made the relationship vulnerable. 

• Step two is "processing the emotional truth" - from shock and grief to anger and doubt. Both partners must face what’s real, not what’s convenient. 

• Step three is about "rebuilding or releasing". Some couples choose to rebuild with new rules, boundaries, and mutual responsibility. Others choose to part ways with clarity and dignity. 

• The final step is "legacy": deciding what model you want to give your children - one that shows strength, responsibility, and emotional maturity. 

Affairs destroy trust - but with the right framework, they can also be a wake up call the turning point that transforms how you live, love, and lead your family.

Through this program Stephen Hedger is empowering individuals and couples to understand how the affair happened so they can make the right decisions for the rest of their lives. 

Any marriage is comprised of two people with very unique histories, beliefs, needs and values who have together created a world / dynamic unlike any other couple on the planet.

The couple needs to understand these differences in a way that supports their connection and growth as an effective team.

It's critical that each person quickly learns in easy steps how to build a win-win dynamic.

Stephen Hedger has become popular with Bankers, Judges, GP’s, Business Leaders, Celebrities, Entrepreneurs, and visiting Royalty to name a few.

These couples on the edge of divorce have been keen to learn his unique insights into seeing their problems in solvable terms.

Most wanted to know if saving their marriage was actually possible, or even the right thing to do based on so much unhappiness.

These clients all arrived with an array of emotions and unique marriage problems. Some were lost, frustrated and angry and some were detached, emotionally numb with bouts of sadness. 

What if the Affair Wasn’t the Real Problem - But a Symptom of a Deeper Truth?

After an affair, most people ask: Can I ever trust them again? But the more important question is: What did the affair expose that we’ve been avoiding?

Affairs don’t happen in deeply connected, emotionally safe relationships. They happen when needs go unmet, when communication breaks down, and when the emotional bond quietly erodes - often long before the betrayal.

The affair becomes the alarm bell. It forces the truth to the surface.

Couples who are brave enough to face that truth - not just the betrayal, but what led to it can rebuild something better than they had before.

Not by pretending it didn’t happen, but by creating a new foundation based on honesty, emotional safety, and shared growth.

This isn’t about going back. It’s about building forward—stronger, wiser, and fully awake to what your relationship really needs to thrive.

This process had to be different. 

My clients wanted - A vision - A plan - Strategy and Tools. 

My clients are time poor so they don't want to spend hours in the past or going into childhood. They simply want to know how to step forward in a meaningful way - In simple terms they just want to know how to fix the problem and fast.

So the couple will receive a growth orientated step-by-step forward thinking approach.

1. A defined plan is created for the couple.


2. The couple are given a framework for success that frees both people to be who they really are.


3. The couples are given weekly advice and steps to their chosen goal


4. The process is educational as the couple are coached on the understanding and skills they'll both need to sustain a successful passionate marriage.


5. The couple are NOT focused on their problems initially, because their problems are symptoms of their real challenges. Which is why couples go round in frustrating circles with each other.


6. The couple are taught the fundamental differences between men and women in the context of an intimate relationship so they can actually communicate and understand each other effectively.


7. The couple are given tools so they know how to overcome problems in the future - this is the framework.


8. They learn about how they work as individuals and how to raise their game in their relationship so it’s successful.


9. They learn how to repair the relationship problems fast.


10. How to plan a future together so it works


11. Most of all they learn how they can help each other to be free, to be all of who they are with each other without fear.


12. One of the biggest differences is in the results. I offer a results focused service and the couple can track with me how they are doing. 90%+ success rates and higher for couples in my 12 week program last year.

I have tried to change my partner for years and it’s impossible why do you think you can change them? 

No one wants to be changed and so the goal is to help both people become more of who they really are. It is only from this position the truth can be gained.

Shouldn’t relationships just work? 

The simple answer is no. Relationship are created, those that do not feed a relationship will starve it. The couple need skills to keep their connection secure so the relationship not just lasts but remains passionate too.

My partner feels we are incompatible could this be true?

When relationships start to fail we go into survival mode and we all change to protect ourselves. This change creates feelings of incompatibility.

Do you believe all couples can be or should be saved? 

No. Some couples are better off apart for all the right reasons. Please don’t assume this is you without getting clarity. 

After an affair shattered our marriage, we were lost. Years of built-up pain had created a crisis we didn’t know how to fix. But Stephen’s Affair Recovery Program gave us exactly what we needed: a safe, structured, and non-judgemental space to face the truth.

We finally understood how we got here. More importantly, we learned how to communicate with honesty, compassion, and clarity. Stephen’s approach helped us not just talk—but actually hear and interpret each other in a way that created connection instead of conflict.

We’ve forgiven each other. We’ve taken full responsibility for our own emotions. And we now put each other first - not from obligation, but because we want to. That shift reignited a level of love, intimacy, and fun we thought we’d lost forever.

Stephen’s tools are simple but powerful, and far more effective than anything we tried in traditional therapy. His wisdom, compassion, and no-nonsense approach changed everything.

Today, we’re laughing again. We’re planning a future we’re both excited about. And we know without doubt: this was the best investment we’ve ever made.

If your relationship is in crisis—go to Stephen. He saved our marriage. He might just save yours too.

Connor and Ann - Director and Doctor

For years, I believed my wife didn’t love me. I felt like a constant disappointment to her, and eventually, I gave up. I had an affair—thinking she’d be better off without me.

When she found out, I expected her to leave. But in our session with Stephen, she cried and shouted, “How could you think that? That’s not true!” I was shocked.

What I didn’t realise was how much pain she had been in too—and how my assumptions had shaped every part of our marriage. Stephen helped us both understand the emotional lens we were each living through.

She found the strength to fight for us, even when I didn’t feel worthy of it. I saw how I’d misread her, and how we’d both contributed to years of pain—without knowing.

Now, we’re rebuilding. For the first time, I truly understand her—and I finally feel understood too.

Michael and Susan - Entrepreneur & house wife

When my husband discovered I had been unfaithful—again—we were at breaking point. He told me he no longer loved me, and honestly, I couldn’t blame him. But I loved him deeply, and I didn’t understand why I kept sabotaging our relationship. I knew I needed help.

We reached out to Stephen. I started with individual sessions, where I finally uncovered the root of my destructive patterns—childhood wounds, low self-worth, and a deep fear I wasn’t good enough. I began to rebuild from the inside out.

When my husband joined the process, he was understandably bitter. He came for answers—and left with understanding. Stephen helped him see the emotional gaps between us and why my actions, while painful, were a desperate cry for connection. He began to see his role in our disconnection, and we both learned the tools to truly hear each other.

Together, we healed. We forgave. We reconnected. Today, our marriage is stronger, more joyful, and more passionate than ever.

Stephen gave us more than tools—he gave us a second chance.
We’re living proof that even after repeated betrayal, with the right help, love can not only survive—it can thrive.

Karen and John - Business Owner & creative director 

“I Just Couldn’t Understand Why She Did It.”

When I found out about the affair, I was devastated—but deep down, I wasn’t surprised. I’d spent years feeling like I wasn’t enough for her. She said she loved me, but I could never believe it. I kept asking why… and never got an answer I trusted.

My constant doubt pushed her away. She grew cold, distant, and eventually depressed. That’s when the affair happened, and my worst fear became real.

I wanted to walk, but we reached out for help instead.

Through Stephen’s guidance, I discovered how my insecurity had shaped everything. I’d become needy, and she had lost herself trying to keep me afloat. Her childhood had taught her to please others to feel worthy and she couldn’t keep going.

As we both took responsibility, everything shifted. I stepped back into confidence. She stopped overgiving. We finally saw the truth behind the pain.

We’re not the same couple anymore—we’re stronger, clearer, and finally at peace.

Barry & Diane – London 

“I left him the moment we joined Stephen's program…”

I’d been unhappy for years, emotionally disconnected, unseen, abandoned, he worked away a lot so he taught me how to not need him. 

My husband is a good man, but I felt invisible in our marriage. I kept giving, but I wasn’t getting anything back. Eventually, I broke. I started an affair, not out of love for someone else, but to feel desired again, to remind myself I was still alive.

We had just joined Stephen’s program when I left. I couldn’t face pretending anymore. My husband was devastated, and I thought that was the end.

But then something happened I never expected.

Instead of falling apart, he began to change.

Stephen helped him rebuild his emotional strength, not to chase me, but to understand me. For the first time, he saw what I’d been silently crying out for all those years - to be heard, felt, valued. He began showing up emotionally, not with guilt, but with presence.

It caught me off guard.

He didn’t beg. He understood. And slowly, that pulled me back. Back to him. Back to us.

We’re not the same people now—we’re so much better.

Simon – Elle - Artist and Interior Designer

Step 1. To get started Stephen is offering a FREE phone call to discover if you or you and your partner are right for this service.

Step 2. If Stephen is happy you are the right client for his program and he believes he can help you he will invite you in for a Zoom Initial Consultation. 

Step 3. If Stephen is happy to proceed you will both be invited into his tailored Affair Recovery Program

If you wish to be considered please act now because your relationship problems won’t magically go away.

90%+ of the couples I have worked with using this powerfully effective Affair Recovery Program have gained the goals they were after and are today living loving and connected lives together giving their children the future that’s most secure.

To gain these results the process has to be designed and so this limits the amount of clients that I can work with at any one time.

One of the reasons this 12 Session Program has been so successful to reveal the right answers is because the individuals minds becomes clear of their fears and worries because they get clarity on why they really have problems and what they can do about it. This means they are no longer helpless. This enables them to focus on a future that will really give them the fulfillment they are after.

Another concern I get is that your situation is so unique and so problematic that no matter what anyone does the future together is impossible. The reality is no problem is ever permanent and it only feels that way based on what you both know about building a successful relationship.

I want to leave you with one last thought. The most successful people on the planet act differently to the rest of the population and knowing what they did differently changed my life forever. Successful people do what’s hard first so they can make the rest of their lives easy. Unsuccessful people do what’s easy first only to find the rest of their life is hard.

So please ask yourself this question: If you were to fast forward to the end of working with me after 12 sessions and you had the answers that gave you total clarity on the direction on the rest of your life, how valuable would that be for you?