Marriage is a dance of energies. It’s a complex combination of keeping passion alive whilst creating a safe place for two people to live and be free to be themselves.
The problem is people do not see the dance is about embracing fundamental critical differences.
The differences initially attract people, but as time passes, they then crave similarities, and this is where the problems start.
Too many similarities will create more connection but will also kill a couple’s loving passion.
It’s about a dance of masculine and feminine energies and critical differences.
They must be kept alive if the couple wants to avoid turning into siblings or friends.
This is a fundamental challenge that many couples face.
Their differences are not understood, and in many cases, their differences create fear.
Fear creates distance, and that creates a need for more sameness which, as you now know, kills passion.
Loss of passion is likely to create distress in one, and this stress fuels a greater need to rebuild connection and sameness.
It’s like an emotional death spiral as fear drives the need for an energy of connection and security that’s almost guaranteed to kill their connection.
Connection, passion, and emotional security are all knitted together in a complex web of confusion for so many couples.
What’s great is this complexity, once understood, is easy to manage and use to your advantage.
You see, many couples who find themselves at the end are usually there for the wrong reason.
New understanding creates new feelings and empowerment for both people.
That is my mission to empower individuals to learn how to take charge so they can develop the right mix of energies that will keep their connection alive.
It’s very easy to get it wrong, but it’s also very easy to get right once you know how.