The process of divorce is very hard emotionally as other people decide on what happens to their money and their children.
• Children do suffer through divorce at the time and years later
• It's far more expensive than you'd think physically and emotionally
• They lose day-to-day contact with their own children
• New partners influence their children’s lives and values
• Many people are blind to why their marriage has really failed and this creates a significant risk of old problems being transferred to their new relationships.
The question: If you were to stay together, would you both be able to create a dynamic that builds a future of connected happiness that will also give your children an effective relationship model.
When couples enter their problem they are unaware of the moving parts that will influence their success or make matters worse.
It's why they are struggling.
In most cases they make matters worse without meaning to.
If they were able to see these influencing parts quickly they would be able to make profound changes that would aid reconnection.
Alignment is critical so understanding each others emotional system creates the ability to evolve their connection to align quickly.
Men would start to understand what to do and why women start to feel understood through effective connection models.
This connection allows women to reconnect and support him.
Both people have a responsibility to be part of a WIN-WIN team this framework helps them to achieve this.
The bottom line is communication and connection is improved through effective comprehension on both sides.
Most couples do not have this foundational skill so it's critical this is understood to stop and reverse resentment stacking.
That is process that turns off peoples feelings.
This framework is critcal because it allows both people to protect and feed the relationship.
It's core to why so many couples are able to reconnect no matter how long they have been disconnected.
They switched off connection now they can learn how to switch it back on.
Through this program Stephen Hedger is empowering individuals and couples to understand their problems so they can make the right decisions for the rest of their lives.
Any marriage is comprised of two people with very unique histories, beliefs, needs and values who have together created a world / dynamic unlike any other couple on the planet.
The couple needs to understand these differences in a way that supports their connection and growth as an effective team.
Please remember this programs steps will be tailored specifically for each couple and are unique to that couples challenges.
This enables each person to be in the driving seat no matter what hits them. They will see the relationship between all the moving parts that influence each other emotions and why they partner experiences them so differently.
The framework is the real key as it means they can solve the future problems without needing my help.
This is important because 99% of the population don’t know how too build a successful marriage and have used a very risky “fingers crossed” strategy which is why they are in trouble.
By helping the couple understand the patterns that are destroying their marriage they can replace them with patterns that actually work.
Most couples are totally unaware of the effect they are having on each other and their future together.
Men and women are very different and so communication can be very challenging. Communication is critical for a safe connection and so understanding each other effectively will grow a deeper bond.
Without trust and respect most couples will fear a future of pain, rather than future of pleasure and so the relationship will always fail.
If the couple can have conflict and grow closer they will build significant security and avoid stacking resentments that just keep coming up to bite the couple years after the event(s).
Too many marriages are failing because the couple have no idea how to meet their partner needs and so they guess and this usually results in failure.
Both people will naturally feel better if they are working to their core strengths and this too aids secure attachments which are foundational to the couples success.
Unless you are invested in each other futures you can’t grow together.
This brings honestly freedom and allows confidence and self-esteem to thrive.
Stephen Hedger has become popular with Bankers, Judges, GP’s, Business Leaders, Celebrities, Entrepreneurs, and visiting Royalty to name a few.
These couples on the edge of divorce have been keen to learn his unique insights into seeing their problems in solvable terms.
Most wanted to know if saving their marriage was actually possible, or even the right thing to do based on so much unhappiness.
These clients all arrived with an array of emotions and unique marriage problems. Some were lost, frustrated and angry and some were detached, emotionally numb with bouts of sadness.
Is it actually possible for a relationship to be dead for years and for it to be fully reignited?
Yes, couples that have been emotionally and sexually dead with each other for over 10 years and thought it would never work have successfully sparked their marriage back to life.
Some say it’s never been this good ever.
Many relationships are just dormant waiting for the right focus spark of energy.
I have tried to change my partner for years and it’s impossible why do you think you can change them?
No one wants to be changed and so the goal is to help both people become more of who they really are. It is only from this position the truth can be gained.
Shouldn’t relationships just work?
The simple answer is no. The couple need skills to be able to keep that connection secure so the relationship not just lasts but remains passionate too.
My partner feels we are incompatible could this be true?
When relationships start to fail we go into survival mode and we all change to protect ourselves. This change creates feelings of incompatibility.
Do you believe all couples can be or should be saved?
No. Some couples are better off apart for all the right reasons. Please don’t assume this is you without getting clarity.
Tim and I went to see Stephen Hedger because after nearly twenty years together our relationship seemed to have fallen into an unhappy rut which neither of us knew how to get out of.
Tension, resentment and insecurities crept in over several years and gradually increased to the point that the atmosphere at home became quite hostile which affected our children and made everyone unhappy.
We had several sessions with Stephen over three months. It’s hard to describe Stephen’s methods but he has a remarkable knowledge and perception of people, their brains and emotional responses.
The results have far exceeded our expectations. We had hoped to get out of the unhappy rut and stop the negative spiral our relationship had developed. Without wishing to sound weird or cheesy, Stephen appears somehow to have re focused our hearts and minds and completely turned us around.
Tim & I feel immensely grateful to Stephen and would highly recommend him, he’s very good value!
Tim and Jill - Banker and Housewife
With your help, we got to understand each other and from that we could defuse tensions that existed in our own minds, not necessarily real for both of us.
Working on our relationship never stops, but thanks to the help we got through working with you, we are in a much better place, and a place that now will hopefully require only us to discuss, understand and resolve.
Everybody, you can’t always solve it yourselves. So if you need guidance, Stephen is probably the best chance you have of cutting to the quick and saving the good you know you have but need someone else to voice it.
Thank you Stephen. We are fine. We are in love, and we are growing together.
Phill and Peijie - Lawyers
I wanted to write to say thank you. There has been a huge turning point in our relationship. We have both worked really hard at following your advice and I have started to allow myself to get close to D physically.
From where we were a few months ago – with the house on the market and divorce lawyers consulted – to where we are now feels nothing short of a miracle. We both realise that there is still so much love and so much worth saving. It was just all disguised under fear, anger, resentment, loneliness and feelings of disconnect and hopelessness.
Your skill as a coach is very special. Anyone who has tried traditional counselling and failed (as we had) should definitely try you before throwing in the towel.
With very best wishes
Grace – London - Lawyers
At the beginning of the year my relationship was at such a low point I was on the verge of breaking a 4 year relationship which left me in a state of anguish.
As a last ditch effort I made an appointment with Stephen Hedger, admittedly not holding out much hope?
Much to my surprise after as little as three meetings I found that there had been a marked improvement in my relationship and that I was fundamentally a lot more positive in salvaging the situation of hopelessness I felt I was in.
Stephen Hedger communicated with clarity and provided us with the tools not only to fix problems today but tools to fix problems for tomorrow.
I am now very happy in my relationship and look to the future with optimism.
Charles – Jane - CEO and Fashion Designer
My wife told me out of the blue that she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. This came as a complete shock to me.
As we have a young child we agreed that we would go and see a couples counsellor – The sessions were bleak, depressing and frankly fairly poisonous – they made us both feel awful about ourselves and our relationship.
One day I found Stephen’s website and it was clear that his approach was completely different. I called his office straight away and spoke to him later that day. We only spoke for 10 minutes but those 10 minutes made more sense and gave me more hope than several hours with the previous counsellor ever did.
We moved into his premium 3 month programme. This was the best decision we made. Stephen clearly put a huge amount of thought and planning into our couples sessions and that paid massive dividends for us.
We have now reconnected and are rebuilding our marriage with huge hope for the future and a completely different understanding of ourselves, each other and our relationship.
Stephen but he has already worked a miracle for us. Day by day our relationship is getting better and better when a short time ago I was convinced it was over. I cannot thank him enough for saving my marriage and my family from a situation which seemed completely devoid of hope.
Company Director and Consultant
If you wish to be considered please act now because your relationship problems won’t magically go away.
90%+ of the couples I have worked with using this powerfully effective Marriage Breakthrough Program have gained the goals they were after and are today living loving and connected lives together giving their children the future that’s most secure.
To gain these results the process has to be designed and so this limits the amount of clients that I can work with at any one time.
Step 1. To get started Stephen is offering a FREE phone call to discover if you or you and your partner are right for this service.
Step 2. If Stephen is happy your are the right client for his program and he believes he can help you he will invite you in for a Zoom Initial Consultation.
Step 3. If Stephen is happy to proceed you will both be invited into his tailored Marriage Breakthrough Program