Below is a basic list of 15 behaviours that couples need to move away from if they wish to keep their connection alive.
In the coming days I’m going to expand on why each of these energies is so damaging.
When couples practise these energies they will debilitate the security of their connection.
They will debilitate their partners’ ability to love them freely so the result is the love can die.
In most cases they will also kill the desire for sexual connection.
So if any of the list below is in your relationship it’s going to stress it’s ability to grow a healthy connection.
1. Assumptions
2. Blame
3. Withholding
4. Mind-reading
5. Judgemental
6. Nagging
7. Criticism
8. Manipulation
9. Punishing
10. Pleasing
11. Controlling
12. Defensivness
13. Negativity
14. Guilt
15. Someone who has to always be right
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Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
Find out more >>> The Marriage Breakthrough Program
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