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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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“It’s like watching two kids squabbling”

There are many occasions when I’ve see grown adults squabbling like a couple of kids, all red-faced, puffed up, and trying to be right.

These adults can have big real-life responsibilities, some are leaders of thousands of employees and some looking after millions/billions of pounds of business, they can also be parents of children they love and want the best for them yet this is the model the kids are presented with at home.

So I tell them what I’m seeing, not to embarrass them, but to help them see how futile this behavior is and how much better it would it be if we could redirect all this energy and passion into rebuilding the relationship, or better yet direct it ultimately into the bedroom.

Resetting the expectation

So I have a message to anyone in a relationship that’s on this rollercoaster.

What we are not told when we get married is you are going to have lots of problems and you are not going to understand them and what’s worse is you are not going to know how to solve them.

In fact, if you do try to solve them you might find they get worse, or you might think you have solved the problem, but will quickly discover you haven’t at all.

It’s not you and it’s not your partner’s fault, no one knows how to get this right no matter how clear you think you are both being.

Everyone is lost, doing their best.

What’s important to understand is you are not designed to understand your relationship problems and you certainly cannot use the problem-solving skills you naturally use or use at work to solve your couple’s problems.

In fact, the problem your partner is facing is going to be different from the one you are facing even when you think you are talking about the exact same thing.

So couples need to stop expecting their partners to understand them and move to find out what the real struggle everyone is facing and how to overcome it.

It was a day of sadness and relief – I remember working with this gentleman he was 71 and they were suffering and he said I have known my wife for 48 years and I’ve just discovered that I never really knew her and what she was trying to say to me.

Many people think if the relationship is too hard to be in then the relationship is wrong and they couldn’t be further from the truth.

Men and women are not naturally designed to live in a box call a home for life. If the couple wants this then they will need to learn skills that will help them align on what’s really important.

Anything that’s worth having is a challenge and once it’s mastered can bring such amazing rewards for those that took the time to learn how.

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Stephen Hedger is known as the most sought after marriage in crisis specialist in the UK. He is famous for consistently and naturally saving many marriages from divorce. He is a favourite of business leaders, business owners, Judges and celebrities.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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Dear Stephen
Thank you for your time to listen to my experience in my marriage. You gave me encouragement to speak out to my partner in confidence. You made me realise that sometimes the way we make comments on each other can aggravate the situation and make it worse. Your advice made me feel revived.

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Success Stories

“It was like walking through a minefield blindfolded”

November 29, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

When relationships go wrong the pain can be unbelievable. Today’s post is about a couple whose relationship was quickly out of control and both people thought it was the end. When I first agreed to meet this couple she arrived first.  She was clearly very anxious, eyes darting, wringing hands, unsure if her husband would […]

One small shift changed her mind & saved her marriage – Part 2 of “Should divorce really be the next step?”

May 10, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

What sits at the core of the most successful marriages. What is it that makes the difference. What is it that helps couples stand the test of time? What is it that helps couples make it through all the ups and downs life has to throw at them? Is sex at the core for a […]

Please Save Our Marriage! – Testimonial

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Please Save Our Marriage! This was the first email I recieved from Darren and Sue, they were at breaking point. When they first entered my clinic you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. This was a couple with young children on the edge, breaking up seemed like the only option open to them… Sue […]

“He thought his life was over..!”

March 1, 2020 By Stephen Hedger

Today’s post is a little different. I wanted to share with you a clients words about his experience of the pain of his divorce and the process of rebuilding him and his future. Over to him… The words hit me like a hammer ~ “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken, you never were. […]

“His emotions were sabotaging what he really wanted…”

November 3, 2019 By Stephen Hedger

What you are about to read is about is a gentleman in turmoil. He thought he had lost the girl he loved and his one-year-old son. She had left him and this connected him to his core fears, emotions that were powerful enough to sabotage him from getting the very thing he wanted. As his […]

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