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Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Advisor | Harley Street London

What is the point of being married when married life is so miserable?

Isn’t the point of a marriage to magnify the feelings we like experiencing? If so why do so many people end up magnifying the feelings they don’t like?

Why do so many people end up so unhappy with each other?

The problem is this…

Being married for life is full of challenges that couples are not even aware of.

As the couples hit these hidden problems they try to understand them with their limited knowledge.

This causes so much conflict as each person is so identified with their limited knowledge, to them their thinking is a fact.

Consider this, why would someone fight so hard to be right when their knowledge is so limited?

Wouldn’t it be better to stop the fighting and the upset and both people agree we don’t know what we are doing?

What would happen if two people appreciated the pain each other was in and became a team to find out how to solve it.

It takes no intelligence to blame and judge, it takes no courage to focus on your partners’ problems.

True courage comes from embracing the skills that will help two people discover the truth of their marriage.

You see, when you think about how much we don’t know, wouldn’t it be a more intelligent action to embrace and identify with our ignorance?

After all, no one would willingly put an overly confident idiot in charge of their family, would they?

Embracing and learning how to be better partners would be far more productive route to happiness.

I know resentment is a huge block for any couples progress, but how can anyone relying on their feelings from the past when the past is full of two people blind to what needed to happen to keep their connection alive.

If both people embraced their ignorance wouldn’t the fight be with the problems and not each other?

If people started using their intellect and stopped relying on the very limited intelligence they have collected, they would realise the futility of their battles.

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