Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Advisor | Harley Street London

If you have been following this blog you will notice that the more you focus your mind on something the more of it you get.

This is true for things you want and things you don’t.

When you look at your life today everything you have is a direct result of where your mind has been focused.

Many of us have no idea how we focus our thoughts and the power those thoughts have on our lives and the paths we follow.

What’s critical to know is the consistent actions you are taking have a direct impact on the life you have today and more importantly the life you are about to have!

So here is a test for you to try.

The purpose of the test is to discover if your consistent thoughts are having a direct impact on your life and the future you are creating.

Take two pieces of paper, at the top of the first piece write POSITIVE and the top of the next write NEGATIVE

Over the course of today write down the thoughts you are having and put them onto either the positive of the negative sheets.

The rules of the test

Negative means a focus on everything you don’t want.

For example: I don‘t have any money, I’m fed up of our arguments. These statements focus your mind on what you don’t want. The problems is this focus gets you more of what you don’t want.

A positive focus would be:

Example: How can I make myself more valuable to the market to get the money I need to live the way I want to live. This focuses the person towards education and intelligence. The focus here is on growth (this creates movement towards what you want) rather than a lack (this creates feeling of being stuck or helpless) of money

Instead of a focus on “I’m fed up of our arguments” A positive person would focus on wanting a loving relationship and help their partner to be less afraid. A positive person would help their partner when they are afraid to feel secure again.

So are you more likely to be positive or negative, do you want to find out?

Are you up for the challenge remember the more honest you are the faster you will learn how to get the life you want.

Let me know how you get on. You can do this over 1 day or 7 days it’s up to you. Do this with your partner.

Remember this is not a competition and a platform to prove you right or your partner wrong if that is your focus put those thoughts in the negative space now.

Good luck!

Stephen Hedger
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