These are just a fraction of the messages that come into my sessions each week, and I just wonder if you can explain how these behaviours are possible, is it temporary madness? Or is there more to it, what do you think?
- How is it possible for a man to scream out of control at his wife even though he says he loves her?
- How is it possible for a woman to self harm when she feels scared she won’t be loved?
- How is it possible for a woman to not say a word when her husband upsets her even if depression becomes her result?
- How is it possible for a woman to be close to suicide after her partner leaves her?
- How is it possible for a man to think that being right is more important than saving his marriage?
- How is it possible for a man to run away from his relationship every time things get tough?
- How is it possible for a man or a woman to seeminly change personality almost over night?
- How is it possible for a man to see his wife in pain, yet make her pain all about him?
- How is it possible for a man to punish his wife and expect her to feel more love for him?
- How is it possible for a man to complain that he can’t bear his wife shouting at him and if it carries on he will leave, yet when I ask how often this happen he says once a year?
- How is it possible for a woman to keep nagging knowing that it never works, but keeps on regardless?
- How is it possible for couple to know their relationship is in trouble, but bury their heads in the sand?
- How is it possible that woman feel so scared to become vulnerable and feminine?
- How is it possible when problems happen sad people get sadder, depressed people get more depressed, angry people get more angry, loving people connect with others, fighters find an excuse to fight?
- How is it possible for a man to come to sessions with me to work on his marriage yet still have an affair that he said he stopped months before?
- How is it possible for a man to believe that money is the power in his relationship?
- How is it possible for a woman to become so masculine?
- How is it possible for a man to be so needy, yet controling?
- How is it possible for a woman to fear her husband is having an affair yet he has done nothing, but love her for 20 years?
Why is it this way do you know?
The answer is simple these behaviours are learnt from the persons past and are behaviours for the most, based on fear and control. These people are trying to meet their needs, but in ways that will only hurt them.
Typical causes are past heightened emotional experiences and poor role models growing up.
Every person has a different driver and different fear, but these behaviours can be devastating for those people and those that love them.
If you are experiencing these problems then please feel free to get in touch.