What’s interesting about the couples I see is they really only have to do a few key things to make a massive difference with each other combined with a little nudge from me…
These few key things make up about 80% of what’s really important/critical.
I wonder how your relationship would be different if you knew about these few key things and applied them?
This couple did and this is their result…
…We couldn’t believe that in one two hour session so much could change. My husband learnt what to do when I became upset, he felt important in our relationship for the first time in years and I felt so much safer with him. Stephen also worked on my depression of 9 years in that same session and it just went. I even had a little panic when I tried to get my depression back and couldn’t.
We are so excited about each other and our lives again!
There were a few things that were amazing about this couple. Firstly despite their frustration with each other they were eager to learn. They wanted to fix this but were clear very frustrated with each other.
He had no idea how to make her happy and was giving up, and she was too depressed to respond to any good deed which further renforced to him she could never change and he could never make her happy.
She also repeated the same message to him over and over hoping in vain he would understand her and of course he didn’t.
Now I had a big challenge. I could see they were on the edge and I knew her depression of 9+ years was going to hamper our effort to rebuild the trust in the relationship and with no trust their wasn’t going to be growth.
Of their first two hour session, I had to understand their story and teach them how to understand why it had gone wrong and give them the plan rebuild the trust, understand the importance of meeting each others needs before igniting the passion and then create goals for the future.
He couldn’t be succesful whilst she was this depressed…
So I had 40 minutes left to rid her of this depression. I told her this was my plan and she agreed to go for it.
After 40 minutes of very fast intensive work she stood standing facing me after a rollercoaster of emotions, tears, shock, laughter, she went through it all. Her pale worried face had now been replaced with a healthy glow and a confident smile.
Seeing the massive change in her I asked her to turn to face her husband, as she turned and look straight at him, in an instant he broke down. I rushed across the room just to check his tears were relief, they were!
The following week
I had a good feeling her change was going to stay by the way she responded to the session however I waited to see them a week later.
They walked in to my session all smiles and upbeat, always a good sign in my world.
She told me that after the session she had experienced minor panic attacks. What was interesting is her attacks were because she was so used to being depressed, when she couldn’t get depressed she felt lost, amazing! Of course this desire to become depressed was short lived and she embraced the new calmer her and so did her husband.
What he did was grab the opportunity to give her what she needed, through his strength he met his own core needs and hers. She explained how through the changes we had put in place he was becoming far more attractive to her and he felt in a position of power in a caring loving way.
The attraction was returning and the trust had been rebuilt.
- If this has stuck a cord with you and you would like to find
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