In today’s post, I’ll explain why I started working with individuals before bringing couples together, what that changed, and how this opened up a way
Case Study: By the Time She Contacted Me, She Was Already Planning Their Separation and Divorce
Her husband had an affair during the final stages of her pregnancy and concealed it for a year. She needed to know whether the man she married could
How to Talk to Each Other—Without It Turning Into Another Argument
We know it’s going to happen again. We hate it, but it keeps happening. I'm tired of arguing. Arguments, withdrawal, stonewalling, blaming,
Is Your Marriage Still Repairable? 7 Signs Worth Understanding Before You Decide
One of the biggest problems I see in couples in crisis is that they have spent so long feeling disconnected that they believe this is the only
Before You Try Again, Can You See What Is Really Driving Your Marriage Problems?
Before you try to repair your marriage again, do not ask only whether you still love each other. Ask a harder question: Do you understand what
Who Do You Become to Cope With Your Marital Problems?
Imagine someone sitting beside their partner, thinking this: “I’m watching TV, but there’s a question I cannot get out of my head. Who have I
She Was Certain Divorce Was the Answer. Then the Same Problem Appeared in Her Next Relationship.
She was certain divorce was the answer. She had been unhappy for years. She felt unheard, disconnected and exhausted from trying to make the
Why Do We Keep Creating a Relationship Neither of Us Wants?
Consider a husband who works relentlessly because providing for his family matters deeply to him. He wants them to feel secure. The thought of failing
Are You Making Things Better or Worse in Your Marriage?
Today's post is about helping you discover the basics of reconnection by shifting your approach to using alignment-based communication skills. This is
Before You Decide Whether to Save Your Marriage or Leave It, Read This
A guide for anyone whose marriage is under serious pressure. When a marriage reaches crisis point, the pressure to decide can feel
A Marriage Dies From Thousands of Cuts
Marriages don’t die through one argument or one break of trust; they die through thousands of cuts that are left without repair, small disconnects
We Can’t Solve Anything Without Making It Worse
This is why so many couples stay stuck. They know something is wrong, but every attempt to fix it seems to trigger another argument, another