Will a couple survive if they don’t share a reason to be together? Couples who plan their journey though life and work as a team towards those goals are far more likely to want to stay together because they have a real purpose.
Creating that purpose helps to build a strong lasting intimate connection.
Most couples vision starts with attracting each other, moving in, getting engaged, getting married and having children. The couple excited about life can race through these goals within a few years.
BUT then the relationships goals stop and life takes over. The couple with no real plan or direction are now adrift coping with whatever life throws at them. Coping is never a great emotional state for creating the growth, the fuel any couple needs to survive and avoid feeling stale together
Most couples who seek help usually share this one challenge. They have never thought about the reason they are together and designed their future.
Does it make sense to you to plan to be successful rather than crossing your fingers that whatever you had when you first met is enough to keep you together forever?
If it does then here are some questions you can ask of yourself and your partner.
The goal is simple, to become passionate about your lives again. To get excited about your life together.
Q1: Find out what is important to you and your partner, and how you can experience more of those feelings.
Q2: Learn about the kind of relationship you really want. What does it look like? What does it feel like? What would you like to experience together?
Q3: If you were to imagine your relationship is just the way you want it to be, who would you have to become for that to be possible?
Q4: How would you describe your ideal journey through your life together? Could you describe the physical and emotional experience you would like to have.
Q5: What would you like to achieve together? When would you both commit to making those achievements happen?
Q6 What is important to your partner? What is their life purpose and how can you support them in their quest?
Q7: What is your life purpose and how can your partner support you?
The key to todays post is really about understanding the power of purpose. Without a purpose growth is challenged.
Growth is critical for life and our personal relationships.
So what’s your plan?