You feel stuck, on one hand you have feelings of love for what you used to have together, but you also know that every day you feel unhappy it’s getting worse and now you can’t see a future together.
You just want to get back to where you were.
Men and women will approach this situation differently, women will usually want to complain, or talk and test their partners love for them. Men will either shutdown, run, argue or just do what they’re are told (for a quiet life).
This method of fixing the relationship is usually built around punishment.
Is this you? Have you been punishing your partner to get them to change?
Consider this… When in your past have you been punished by your partner and then felt more love for them after?
I expect your answer is never!
Yes this never works, so instead of fighting or punishing convert all that energy into loving them more.
If your expectation is that you want your partner to be the best they can be for you, why not practice what you preach and be the best you can be for them first.
You are conditioned by society to punish when someone has done something wrong. In relationships it never ever works.
If in the past you feel your punishment has worked you can bet that your partner did what you wanted with a side order of attaching resentment to you.
Resentment is never far away from a lack of respect and that’s very close to the end of your relationship.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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