If an individual or couple really wants to save their marriage they have to understand how they are going to positively influence their situation.
When a marriage goes into crisis what the individuals in the relationship do next could change their lives forever so taking swift action is critical because once a problem takes hold shifting it is a really challenge especially if you don’t know how.
Many people make it far worse without knowing and they panic letting their fears take hold making the situation far worse.
Every situation is different and every couple needs help that’s tailored for their specific situation.
Through this post I cannot tell you what to do in your personal crisis to save your marriage because your best action will be different to the next couple.
What I can tell you is time is not on your side and trial and error is a very risky strategy at this stage.
Every crisis situation will have it’s own unique roots and needs real care an attention to interrupt a destructive pattern and move the couple towards a safer outcome.
For example my advice would be totally different in the following crisis based cases.
A person in a marriage can go into their own personal crisis and want to get out of the relationship as a solution to stop their own powerfully painful emotions.
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A couple can go into crisis because they are both so empty emotionally that despite loving each other their love can feel dead as they enter their own individual emotional coping strategies.
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A couple could have experienced an infidelity and experience extreme emotional trauma as a result.
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An individual could have lived in silence for years planning their escape from the relationship without their partner understanding the true severity of the situation.
Every situation is different and so a one size does not fit all especially in these differing cases.
It’s so important to get the right advice and quickly.
Too many people go to their friends and family who have the best of intentions, but will only confuse the situation.
Whatever you do you must take action, do not ignore a crisis because it will not go away on it’s own.
Passionate people will do what it takes to overcome their problems and these are the couples we are passionate about working with.
So when your marriage and family is on the line what are you going to do?