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Stephen Hedger

Stephen Hedger

Crisis Marriage Coach | Harley Street London

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What is really causing your relationship problems?

When couples try to solve their relationship problems most will notice they will either be making them worse or some will try to bury them as a means to move on and stay together.

What I see is people doing their best to get to a good place but without really understanding the structure of their problem and what is really blocking their success.

The key to helping a couple reconnect regardless of their situation is to help them see the structure of their problems so they are armed to work together as a team to battle their problems rather than each other.

The first mission is stopping the couple making their problem worse.

By understanding the core structure of the problem and learning the tools to navigate their way out of their issues the couple can avoid solving the wrong problems.

Trying to solve the wrong problem can add significantly more negative pressure on the couples already stressed dynamic.

  • One person might say we are having problems because my husband has no empathy.
  • Another might say my wife needs anger management.
  • Another might say, my partner, as a child was shipped to boarding school and it traumatised them so they now don’t know how to connect.

Getting the diagnosis wrong can be a significant problem.

For example, sending an angry woman in a marriage to Anger Management could lead her to depressive and anxious states if the true nature of her anger is not understood.

One couple who were not having sex took themselves off to a sex therapist and it nearly broke their marriage because their problem was rooted in the couples inability to connect and build an attraction creating foundation.

So one of the core objectives must be to understand the structure of the problem the couple is experiencing so their connection can be rebuilt in a way that helps the couple achieve lasting change.

This means couples with problems MUST understand they are experiencing symptoms caused by hidden challenges in their dynamic that will naturally block their ability to connect.

Couples must understand how their problems are created so they are now armed with the tools and knowledge that helps them understand why their dynamic broke and what they both now have to do to put it back on track.

This is a big reason why I ask couples to stop trying to fix their marriage if they are coming to work with me.

I know they don’t understand their problem well enough to navigate each other to safety.

So the answer to the question what is really causing your relationship problems is the couples inability to be able to see why they are really suffering.

  • I spend a lot of time helping couples navigate the structure of affairs so they can both learn how to ensure their relationship is bulletproof in the future.
  • I spend significant time will couples who have lost emotional connection learn the structure of how men and women connect and how they have broken that.
  • I spend time showing couples the structure of their communication and specifically why they are not hearing each other and what to do to change it.

When a couple does not understand their relationship problems and they try unsuccessfully to fix their problems they can go on for years with both people feeling emotionally exhausted wondering what’s the point.

  • The point is to stop the couple leaving the relationship for the wrong reasons.
  • The point is to stop the couple leaving the marriage only to find the same problems in the next relationship.
  • The point is to be safe role models for children.

The answers are there for those curious enough to look.

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I’m not going to ask you how you “feel", pay me to watch you argue, or try to find the person to blame.

I am looking to discover if the couple can become a team, overcome their problems together and create a dynamic that will create a loving and passionate life together.

My approach is to take you from where you are, to where you want to be… fast!

I can not recommend Stephen highly enough – he not only saved our marriage, but has improved my marriage and myself as a person.

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In a short phone conversation, Stephen was able to quickly get to the heart of what the real issue was in our marriage – and why in almost a year of working on our marriage including 10 weeks of marriage counselling through a relationship therapy organisation, we weren’t really making any progress. I found Stephen to be extremely perceptive, as well as empathetic to our situation, while being able to quickly pinpoint the real sticking point in our marriage.
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I’m working with this lady, and during the session, she wanted to comment on a testimonial another client had left. As you go through today post, you will see what she wanted to say. Before you get to her words, I want to set the context. I’m not quoting her word for word here, but […]

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“I went to see Stephen when my relationship was at breaking point. The final trigger was my partner’s plan to sell his property and move in with me. We had until then a long-distance relationship and never spent more than about a month together (thanks to the COVID lockdown). I had finally moved to his […]

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  • Breaking unhealthy relationship patterns
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