I have never shared this before, this information I’m about to share is normally reserved for my “Marriage Breakthrough Program” clients.
So please take your time and follow this carefully.
Most people think that what causes marriages to fail is affairs, arguments, inability to communicate, stress, negativity, loss of sexual connection, money problems, boredom etc.
What if you knew that this wasn’t true, what if all the problems couples face is not their real problem. Would that now make sense to why so many couples go round and round in circles frustrated at each other.
In todays post I am going to share the real influencer behind couples problems and how with the right help many problems couples face are quickly solvable.
So what is it that really causes our relationships to die, what causes divorce and what causes families to be needlessly ripped apart.
These influencers are powerful and will shut down a couples ability to grow their relationship. If your relationship doesn’t grow it dies and this wakes up our fears.
First influencer is the programming we received from the ages of pre-birth to seven. During this time our minds were absorbing all the messages our surroundings are giving us.
This programming is very powerful as it forms the foundation of our automatic reactions through into adult life. For example if a child feels they are always wrong, they will grow up feeling they are unlovable which will be a significant challenge for that person especially in adult relationships.
The subconscious mind is powerful and will create automatic feelings, but it also has limitations. For example: it has no concept of time it will just react if triggered. So an emotionally charged event historically will still have the subconscious on red alert 30 years later for some similar event.
With so many programs automatically in place to keep us safe our automatic reactions to our relationships can shift us into fearful states without us knowing. Plus understanding that most humans live most of their lives automatically it’s not difficult to see why these outdated programs can cause so many problems.
This creates conscious fear and shuts down our ability/desire to give the relationship what it needs to survive and the result is the person is focus on protecting themselves from their partner actions or reactions.
So now you know most of us are living on automatic pilot in reaction to the world we live in, now imagine two people on automatic pilot with their fears all waiting to be triggers without the couple knowing, what is going to happen?
Of course disaster, and over time the result is affairs, arguments, inability to communicate, stress, negativity, loss of sexual connection, money problems, boredom etc.
The way to overcome and prevent marital disaster is to learn what the subconscious is really trying to achieve and guide it consciously to a safer place.
Simply speaking help the couple to learn new behaviours in their marriage that are designed to keep them secure and fulfil each others core needs.
The reason couples find success with me is they learn what their minds are trying to achieve automatically and with the skills they learn they discover how to fulfil not just their own needs, but their partners too, thus aiding long-term pleasurable connection.
In fact many couples decided to continue working with me individually using life coaching as a means to use their new understanding to fulfil other key areas of their lives such as career, wealth, weight, goals.
Don’t suffer anymore, stop going round in circles, call Cloe today and now book your first step toward your goals.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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