The keys to keeping a marriage successful is understanding the real problems in your marriage and focusing on the steps most likely to fix those problems.
I am constantly at the sharp end of all manner of marital challenges and I can tell you that for most couples the problems they come to the sessions with are not the problems I have to fix.
So a couple might come with detachment problems, loss of love, sexual disconnection, frequent conflict, money problems, controlling behaviours, communication issues to name a few.
The couple will feel these specific challenges are their problems and could have tried to fix them, most will be unsuccessful.
If they do try to fix them they are going to get resistance and simply go round in circles and for many this will make things worse.
The key to understanding how to solve your marriage problems is to look for what’s causing the problems to present themselves.
I call this the root problem(s). Getting to the root problem is for many a challenge, because most people don’t even know it’s there and secondly even if they did they wouldn’t know how to get to it.
The purpose of todays post is not to try to specifically fix your problems, but to make you aware that it’s highly likely you will have a root challenge and this is what’s causing your problems feel impossible to fix.
Couples that work with me can start to feel that the problems they thought were their problems actual disappeared once they got to the bottom of their real problems.
Getting to the truth in your relationship is so important, because this avoids expensive financial and emotionally painful decisions many couple get to because they wrongly think they have tried everything.
The perception for most couples who decided to split or divorce is they feel their problems are impossible to solve.
The reality is this, it’s impossible to solve the way they have been trying. So if you and your partner are going around in circles the question is this, what change will actually fix your problems?
So far you will know the ones you have tried don’t work so if the truth is important to you call us today and step-by-step Stephen will explain how to get to the real problem and the steps that are needed to help you overcome problems you thought were impossible to fix.