The worst kind of marriages are the ones that practice the reverse of what it needs to survive.
The traits of the worst marriages will kill the energy that creates passion attraction and love.
Please note: I’m not covering physical violence in this post as that goes without saying.
Marriages that are full of actions surrounding these negative energies will guarantee disconnection.
Are any of these traits in your marriage?
- Judgement
- Blame
- Anger
- Mindreading
- Revenge
- Criticism
- Jealousy
- Powerlessness
- Assumptions
- Fear Boredom
- Doubt
This type of list is the person focused on themselves driven by fear or unhelpful outdated patterns.
This list will support the person to meet their needs outside of the marriage which help the marriage to die.
Worst traits in a marriage
Some will struggle to see the good in their partner and be constantly connected to what they are doing that’s wrong.
Worst kinds of marriage set each other up to fail.
They make their partner feel bad about themselves by putting them down to make themselves feel better.
They compete with their partner.
They are not invested in their partners happiness.
They are disconnected from their own personal integrity, what they value they only expect from their partner and not themselves.
They are only interested in meeting their own needs.
Sex is something they take.
They tell others how they should feel.
They disregard others feelings especially the ones they don’t understand.
They blame the world when life goes wrong because nothing is their fault.
They don’t say sorry.
They don’t own their part of the problems.
They only see the world through their own eyes which makes them right and everyone else wrong.
They lie.
They kill dreams.
They make everything else more important than their own partner.
They give up being themselves and live as victims, depressed, anxious stressed, and are always a problem.
They make everything about them.
They have no energy for life and accept that as other run around them.
They use anger and emotional stress to control others.
They take or trade with their partner to get what they need.
All these traits will lead the couple into a self-protection dynamic. Self-protection puts them on track for, resentments, detachment and for some divorce.
None of the traits above will ever create a relationship of any worth as it’s all about control and love simply cannot be controlled or forced.
Harley Street Expert | Founder & High Performance Coach
With two decades of experience helping couples out of crisis, Stephen the founder of The Marriage Breakthrough Program, uses his proven system for rescuing and rebuilding relationships on the edge of divorce. A trusted advisor to CEOs, entrepreneurs, and industry leaders globally, his work blends emotional intelligence with strategic clarity. Known for navigating highly complex relationship challenges, Stephen helps individuals and couples find clarity and direction when everything is at stake.
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