Today is about "life by design". It's the process of designing and creating your relationship and life the way it should be. It's the starting
30 Days of Stop & Never posts – The Behaviours that create an emotional disconnect
30 days ago I decided to start a new category on this blog to help people understand what they must STOP or NEVER do if they want to maintain a
We don’t agree on what the problem is! – Mini Post
It's normal for couples to see the same problem very differently. Even couples who agree on one part of the problem, "we know we don't communicate
The Warrior & The Princess
When couples don't understand that the other person cannot see the world the same as they do, they assume the other is being difficult, mean or
“My Partner Blames ME for Everything!” – Mini Post
"My partner constantly tells me I'm the problem, so I get blamed for everything!" This is a common complaint that enters my sessions. To be fair it
“I Don’t see the Problem..!?” – Mini Post
What do you do when one person is unhappy in their marriage and the other says they are perfectly happy and can't/won't see the problem? Many
“He told her she was too fat!”
When working with couples in crisis you are going to see a lot of distorted behaviours and after nearly 20 years of doing this, I have seen and heard
“NEVER Sweep Problems Under The Carpet!” – Mini Post
I have seen so many people who have had problems for years and for a quiet life or to protect the relationship they ignore them, they hope they will
The RULES for Being UPSET? – Mini Post
Have you ever noticed that some people can look for ways to be upset, either by a situation, what someone said, or what they think they should have
“You made me feel…”
You made me feel terrible, upset, angry, mortified these are a few emotions people blame others for making them feel. I hear people in sessions
How Emotional Patterns Destroy Marriages
The challenge we all face is on some level we all have some kind of unhelpful pattern that we learned growing up. It's nothing to be ashamed
“A Simple Reason Why Relationships Fail!” – Mini Post
If you want to know the most common reason why relationships fail so you can avoid it, this post is for you, because in the land of failed